It just doesn't fit...?

[workhard1]

So I started having sex with this new girl. However, the first time we were about to actually have sex she whispered in to my ear "Not to scare you or anything, but this is my first time". We have now attempted to have sex 3 times, but I just don't fit inside of her, she is just too tight. So what the heck can I do about this? It hurts us both when we try to have sex

 

[RasPlasch]

Finger bang her for awhile. That should loosen her up. Or just use lube? lol.

 

[Chubby]

Get her drunk.

 

[Crono1000]

if this problem is happening it most likely means that either she's not lubed up enough (not enough foreplay, she's nervous, etc.) or you're a walking penis with a person attached to it. In other words, if a vagina can stretch to the point that a baby can come out of it then it can fit in a penis up to the size of a watermelon.

 

[Hench]

Buy a small dildo, use that to help loosen her up, then youll be good to go.

 

[sendit08]

In other words, if a vagina can stretch to the point that a baby can come out of it then it can fit in a penis up to the size of a watermelon.

Its going to come down to two things...
1. Lubrication
2. Relaxation
*** Take it easy buddy... leave the jackhammer out of it for a while!!

 

[KelJu]

I may be wrong, but this just comes out sounding like a "hey, I have a giant cock" thread.

 

[sendit08]

yes obvious brag thread...
but just incase this guy actually does have a girl that wants to screw him
for her sake, the slower the better!

 

[Built]

I'll suggest it - muscle relaxant? Something with an analgesic in it might make it a little less painful.

Also, make sure the room is warm and she's really relaxed. Get her off before you get started so she's all happy and riding the oxytocin wave.

 

[KelJu]

I'll suggest it - muscle relaxant? Something with an analgesic in it might make it a little less painful.

Also, make sure the room is warm and she's really relaxed. Get her off before you get started so she's all happy and riding the oxytocin wave.

I need to get me some oxytocin that isn't the friendship and brotherly love kind.

 

[workhard1]

This was not meant to be a bragging thread... I will be the first to stand up and say I am pretty sure I have about the average sized penis. It actually seems like a problem. There is plenty of foreplay too, and I wait until I can tell that there is enough liquid down there for me to penetrate (she is the virgin not me....). I just think she is afraid it will hurt so she gets nervous pretty quick and seems to dry up fairly quick once I am no longer going down on her.

 

[sendit08]

Ill give you a secret recipe...

KY + THC

 

[workhard1]

Ill give you a secret recipe...

KY + THC

I could use some KY, but do you think it would make her feel odd about the sex since she is so new to it and all? I actually like this girl and can see myself wanting to date her for a while, so I don't want to freak her out ha

 

[Built]

Put the KY on you.

What are you using for birth control?

 

[sendit08]

or just buy extra lubed condoms

 

[workhard1]

Put the KY on you.

What are you using for birth control?

We are actually using two contraceptive methods. She is on Yaz (I think that is some form of birth control) but I have noticed from talking to her that she is not religious about taking it, for example last night she forgot it and just said "oh well I will take it tomorrow" since I am in college, I am not looking to take any risks, so we also use a condom (although I would rather not). I am pretty sure she would notice if I put the KY even on myself and I don't want her to feel awkward and ask what I am doing

 

[TrojanMan60563]

We are actually using two contraceptive methods. She is on Yaz (I think that is some form of birth control) but I have noticed from talking to her that she is not religious about taking it, for example last night she forgot it and just said "oh well I will take it tomorrow" since I am in college, I am not looking to take any risks, so we also use a condom (although I would rather not). I am pretty sure she would notice if I put the KY even on myself and I don't want her to feel awkward and ask what I am doing

Yaz is good stuff...some of my ex's were on that and really liked it...low side effects etc...

You should use a rubber until you both get tested but hell yeah it feels way better without it.

I think you breaking out some ASTROGLIDE would not make her uncomfortable. It would show you care for her comfort. It will avoid the dry issues for sure.

I would stop worrying about this and have like a nice dinner take her home and say watch a movie....get frisky and just go with it. Don't make the putting it in thing a production, or make it seems like the foreplay is leading up to the big penetration. She will get wet and if you just take slow short strokes your little man will start sliding in...before you know it you'll be in there up to your balls in tight virgin cooter loving life.

I think the key is to take the away the build up leading to the penetration and she will stay relaxed.

 

[Chubby]

If it doesn't fit, then, maybe she is not right size for you. Why not find your own size?

 

[Built]

Birth control pills lower endogenous testosterone to post-menopausal levels. In light of this, it should come as no surprise that she may have a hard time lubricating. I couldn't believe what a difference testosterone made until I went on (testosterone) HRT. The difference was profound.

 

[Chubby]

Why is everyone encouraging him to punish this poor woman? Why not let go and find her own size?

 

[Built]

Why do you think her being able to have a normal sexual relationship with her boyfriend is punishment?

 

[Chubby]

Why do you think her being able to have a normal sexual relationship with her boyfriend is punishment?

If it doesn't fit, then must be of wrong size. Why tear her apart when she has option to choose a smaller size.

 

[Built]

1. He doesn't think he's all that big.
2. A baby can pass through there. No matter how big any man is, he's never THAT big.

She'll manage.

 

[Chubby]

1
She'll manage.

Yeah right.. easy for you to say since you are not the one who will go through that pain.

 

[Built]

You figure I'm still a virgin, chobby?

 

[Chubby]

You figure I'm still a virgin, chobby?

 

[Built]

LOL - sometimes a girl's just gotta learn to stretch it out a little. Happens to the luckiest of us - she'll get used to it.

 

[Arnold]

if this problem is happening it most likely means that either she's not lubed up enough (not enough foreplay, she's nervous, etc.) or you're a walking penis with a person attached to it. In other words, if a vagina can stretch to the point that a baby can come out of it then it can fit in a penis up to the size of a watermelon.

yup.

 

[min0 lee]

Sand your penis down to size.

 

[TrojanMan60563]

If it doesn't fit, then must be of wrong size. Why tear her apart when she has option to choose a smaller size.

Sounds like you run into a lot girls that have already been upsized too much for you huh?

Dude it goes back to normal after sex, and this isn't a matter of it being too large or her being too small. This is about he being a virgin and nervous, and this guy not sure how to handle it. I don't think his intentions are to put her in pain.