Casual Sex

[Muscle_Girl]

I have been thinking rescently that it might be good for me to go on a sex-spree. I don't know if I could handle it though. I find I am an extremely jealous person when it comes to almost anybody getting attention that I feel should be sent my way. Ex: I have a co-worker, she is my moms age so I get along with her and go to her for advice. Rescently we hired someone else to work with us and I have had weird feelings when they chat and such. Am I just an attention whore.. I am not one to jump up in the middle of class and scream out "look at me" I am a fairly quiet person, but just get weird feelings when the attention isn't on me. I am also not huge on sex, like I like it, it feels good, I just don't have the same eagerness as most people seem to have. I don't have feelings of: God damn, I gotta fuck something now or I will die. I broke it off with a rescent boyfriend and sex was only happening 1 or 2 times a week.. I only visit on weekends.. But is that normal?

Ok, now, knowing a little info, the question at hand. Is it good for a young woman to experience casual sex a few times before settling down.

 

[CRASHMAN]

ME!! ME!!! PICK ME!!! ya casual sex is good as long as its with me and no one else

 

[Muscle_Girl]

Wtf is the point of casual sex then, slut!

 

[CRASHMAN]

we don't have to dress up? i could wear a tuxedo if you wanted

 

[Muscle_Girl]

My god, GET OUT, your spamming up my "serious thread!"

 

[puppi1213]

Define the casual sex. Would it be one night stands or perhaps someone you had a relationship and decided it wasn't the right one. Safe sex first, know that partner before getting intimate. My $.02.

 

[CRASHMAN]

ok fine, i'll just talk to you online

But i think it is very important to play the field before settling down instead of you settling down and always wondering, "what if" or living in regret.

my rule of thumb no marriage till 30

 

[Muscle_Girl]

Umm, well I am not sure.. I was more thinking one night stands, that way I didn't get too emotionally attached. Of course I would always think of safe sex tho, np there

 

[Muscle_Girl]

ok fine, i'll just talk to you online

But i think it is very important to play the field before settling down instead of you settling down and always wondering, "what if" or living in regret.

my rule of thumb no marriage till 30

Yea, but there will always be "what ifs." To what point does it count as not being questioned if it could have been different.

 

[CRASHMAN]

Yea, but there will always be "what ifs." To what point does it count as not being questioned if it could have been different.

to the point of where you are comfortable with finally settling down and saying you lived those crazy years and had fun instead of always being tied down and not being able to experience them

 

[LAM]

my defintion of casual sex is bascially sex with no strings attached but on a somewhat regular basis. personally I don't see the point of one night stands and only having sex with a person one time. all of the girls that were my "fuck friends" I had sex with for several years.

 

[ALBOB]

I am also not huge on sex, like I like it, it feels good, I just don't have the same eagerness as most people seem to have. I don't have feelings of: God damn, I gotta fuck something now or I will die.

That statement right there should answer your question. If you're not really "into it" then, why bother? If it's just to satisfy curiosity it's not going to be very good anyway so again, why bother? The only reason I could possibly think of for you to do this would be if it was with ME.

(Crashman, you moron. You do the serious, sensitive stuff FIRST...........THEN you make your move. )

 

[CRASHMAN]

(Crashman, you moron. You do the serious, sensitive stuff FIRST...........THEN you make your move. )

Ah sparrow you are very wise it must come with age

 

[Muscle_Girl]

I dunno, as Crash said, would likely be a what if type of thing later. I just feel like making something serious right now is not the best idea. So many people have said that I am too young to have had such serious relationships.

I am 20 today BTW

 

[nikegurl]

So many people have said that I am too young to have had such serious relationships.

I am 20 today BTW

Well, if they're in the past tense they weren't TOO serious. (I'm not making light of it - just saying sounds like you're on track for 20.)

Happy B'day by the way!

 

[LW83]

Happy Bday!

 

[mrguy]

At 20, you have still need to get out and check out what's available out there.

If you have decided that marriage later in life is not for you, then go for as many one night (safe) stands as you can get!!!

If however, you might entertain the idea of settling down, remember that most guys don't really think of woman who have gotten around a lot as marriage material. If that is the case, invest in a good vibro with a whole lot of Energizers!! Or, as mentioned earlier, find a couple "fuck" buddies that could satisfy your needs.

If I knew my wife had slepted with a whole boat load of guys before me, we would not of been married for the past 15 years. I can count the woman I slept on one hand and never did get into the "fuck" as many woman as possible mood and felt my wife had to have the same morals as me.

Also, even having safe sex with strangers is really not safe anymore!!

 

[TrojanMan60563]

Happy Bday Muscle Girl...casual sex is fine...go for it...just make sure you practice safe sex (condoms) so that you do not get anything you can't get rid of. Maybe you have not been a huge fan of sex because its never really been good sex. You say you enjoy it but lets say your used to drinking water warm and enjoy it....but then you drink water from different fountains and you come to one that has ice cold water and then you LOVE it.....like sex you will have it will some people that knock your socks off and then others that suck....others are somewhere in the middle. The plan is to have sex with people and not get emotionally attached to them. You can't afford to fall in love with someone that you only intend to have sex with or be friends with...chances are most of the guys you do this with are not going to want it to go any further so you'll probably end up hurt if you get attached....if this happens to you then obviously sex with random guys is not going to work for you.....bottom line is be safe about it and refuse any sex without a rubber......and keep your beaver in shape and clean...nothing worse then a dirty huge beaver...get some benwa balls or get doing your kegals so you keep that pussy tight....just my thoughts on the topic.

 

[Crono1000]

At 20, you have still need to get out and check out what's available out there.

If you have decided that marriage later in life is not for you, then go for as many one night (safe) stands as you can get!!!

If however, you might entertain the idea of settling down, remember that most guys don't really think of woman who have gotten around a lot as marriage material. If that is the case, invest in a good vibro with a whole lot of Energizers!! Or, as mentioned earlier, find a couple "fuck" buddies that could satisfy your needs.

If I knew my wife had slepted with a whole boat load of guys before me, we would not of been married for the past 15 years. I can count the woman I slept on one hand and never did get into the "fuck" as many woman as possible mood and felt my wife had to have the same morals as me.

Also, even having safe sex with strangers is really not safe anymore!!

my thoughts exactly

 

[ALBOB]

I don't necessarily DISagree with what's being said. Casual sex can be great. But it can only be great if that's what you WANT. In your case I don't see you wanting this. It's more of a question than an answer for you. With that in mind I'm going to stick to my original assessment and ask, why bother? If you're not doing it for any other reason than to say, "OK, I did it" then you have no business doing it. I don't see this working out well for you. I think you're more of a person who needs an emotional attachment before the sex can be good. I could obviously be completely wrong, but that's the way I read you. If I'm at all correct then do NOT go out and start flinging around with every Tom, Dick and ALBOB in sight. Just wait until someone comes along who satisfies you emotionally, THEN you can start experimenting with sex. (And keep that ALBOB guy in mind. )

 

[craig777]

I have been thinking rescently that it might be good for me to go on a sex-spree. I don't know if I could handle it though. I find I am an extremely jealous person when it comes to almost anybody getting attention that I feel should be sent my way. Ex: I have a co-worker, she is my moms age so I get along with her and go to her for advice. Rescently we hired someone else to work with us and I have had weird feelings when they chat and such. Am I just an attention whore.. I am not one to jump up in the middle of class and scream out "look at me" I am a fairly quiet person, but just get weird feelings when the attention isn't on me. I am also not huge on sex, like I like it, it feels good, I just don't have the same eagerness as most people seem to have. I don't have feelings of: God damn, I gotta fuck something now or I will die. I broke it off with a rescent boyfriend and sex was only happening 1 or 2 times a week.. I only visit on weekends.. But is that normal?

Ok, now, knowing a little info, the question at hand. Is it good for a young woman to experience casual sex a few times before settling down.

I have had sex with two women, been married twice. I think that I am going to give this casual sex thing a try for a while.

I just need to find any women willing to help me in this endeavor

 

[largepkg]

At 20, you have still need to get out and check out what's available out there.

If you have decided that marriage later in life is not for you, then go for as many one night (safe) stands as you can get!!!

If however, you might entertain the idea of settling down, remember that most guys don't really think of woman who have gotten around a lot as marriage material. If that is the case, invest in a good vibro with a whole lot of Energizers!! Or, as mentioned earlier, find a couple "fuck" buddies that could satisfy your needs.

If I knew my wife had slepted with a whole boat load of guys before me, we would not of been married for the past 15 years. I can count the woman I slept on one hand and never did get into the "fuck" as many woman as possible mood and felt my wife had to have the same morals as me.

Also, even having safe sex with strangers is really not safe anymore!!

Well said!

 

[Little Wing]

the only sex really worth having is between two people who are totally commited to each other, loyal lovers who value each other so much they'd never cheat. then and only then can sex be what it is meant to be. a fear free expression of affection and not some latex inhibited game of roulette.

 

[craig777]

the only sex really worth having is between two people who are totally commited to each other, loyal lovers who value each other so much they'd never cheat. then and only then can sex be what it is meant to be. a fear free expression of affection and not some latex inhibited game of roulette.

I agree with you 100% RG

 

[Crono1000]

(And keep that ALBOB guy in mind. )

I'm thinking if she's gonna have casual sex she's at least going to want it to last long enough to enjoy it

 

[craig777]

I'm thinking if she's gonna have casual sex she's at least going to want it to last long enough to enjoy it

Good shot there Crono

 

[ALBOB]

I'm thinking if she's gonna have casual sex she's at least going to want it to last long enough to enjoy it

Bah, I'll enjoy it enough for both of us.

 

[Muscle_Girl]

I don't necessarily DISagree with what's being said. Casual sex can be great. But it can only be great if that's what you WANT. In your case I don't see you wanting this. It's more of a question than an answer for you. With that in mind I'm going to stick to my original assessment and ask, why bother? If you're not doing it for any other reason than to say, "OK, I did it" then you have no business doing it. I don't see this working out well for you. I think you're more of a person who needs an emotional attachment before the sex can be good. I could obviously be completely wrong, but that's the way I read you. If I'm at all correct then do NOT go out and start flinging around with every Tom, Dick and ALBOB in sight. Just wait until someone comes along who satisfies you emotionally, THEN you can start experimenting with sex. (And keep that ALBOB guy in mind. )

Yes, you are right. I only enjoy sex when its emotionally sound. I am not one to go out to the bar, in fact I haven't even been to one, well I did go, but got carded and didn't have ID so they refused me lol. (Keep it shut allboobies) I am not a huge attention grabber, how the hell am I supposed to find a guy in this hole of a town!?

 

[Muscle_Girl]

the only sex really worth having is between two people who are totally commited to each other, loyal lovers who value each other so much they'd never cheat. then and only then can sex be what it is meant to be. a fear free expression of affection and not some latex inhibited game of roulette.

I do agree with ya, and have. I just feel as if something more needs to happen before I settle down. He wasn't ready to make commitments. He can't hold on to his money, so I said fuck it. I have had a rough upbringing, and still am having money probs, but when I get myself on track I never want to go back to the way I see my mom as. I refuse.

 

[Muscle_Girl]

Bah, I'll enjoy it enough for both of us.

He doesn't have to last long at all, just aslong as that tongue is exercised the way it should So when should I expect you albob?