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Diary of a madman.....

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My dear... I think you've named this diary correctly... ;)
 
Mochy sweetie I am so sorry for that rather unfriendly PM.. can I please take that back and try again????

I didn't think you were unfriendly, you just sounded sad. :(

No big deal! :D

Glad to know that your happier today.
 
Originally posted by butterfly
My dear... I think you've named this diary correctly... ;)

Yeah I know.. I'mso afraid to go back and read through this someday. Either it will totally put me in a irreversible state of depression or send me laughing all the way to my grave!!! Either way ..... crazy!!!
 
Originally posted by mochy
I didn't think you were unfriendly, you just sounded sad. :(

No big deal! :D

Glad to know that your happier today.
Thanks :) I just don't like nbeing unsociable and when I am I'm always afraid I say things the wrong way.. uh type things the wrong way.
 
Thursday July 18, 2002

Dear Diary,

Looks like I'm getting fired.

Well funny how things work out. Today started off as a great day, and actually considering what happened today I'm still smiling and in a relatively great mood. I'm on a 2 day suspension until Friday then I will find out the outcome if I get to come back to work or not. I'm hoping not and I'll explain why.

Oh so why the suspension?? Well seems that this past week the IT people have been monitoring my internet activity. I just happended to look at two websites besides this one today, one that was posted for a model friend of someone here, forgot the name of the site and the other was our very own Venus' site. Well that's all it took.

We signed an agreement a year ago or more stating that we would not use the internet for anything but work related use and since these weren't well that's why the suspension. Now the termination part is what makes this all interesting. I'll have to start back in March.

There are two girls at work who complained about sexual harrasment, not directly at me though. What was asked of these to girls was to document all accounts since their employment that they considered harrasment. Due to this my name and about 10 other employees showed up on the list. Their greivences were things like, rubbing there back while talking to them. Placing a hand on their shoulder while they were seated at their desk, etc..

Yes i was guilty of these acts. Did I consider them sexual harrassment no. We were never given a "class" that specifically says this is and this isn't.

Okay so now one of the girls happens to be trying to the sue the company for whatever reasons she has. She has been on anti depressants for over 6 months and is now on a Dr's request for leave of absense. All of this is due to her being traumatized, etc.

Now once again how does this relate to me losing my job? Well they are trying to tie in the sexual harrasment stuff and me looking at women clad in bathing suits... somehow these two go together. I am their scapegoat. I am the only Supervisor in their lists they submitted. IOf they show that they have let me go due to related circumstances then they are taking the steps needed to correct the problems this girl was having. You all follow???

Okay now why do I hope I get fired? Well I'll struggle for a bit but eventually I will be much better off. Can you say LAWSUIT???

Wrongfull termination: I agreed to use the Internet for work related purposes only and they state they have been monitoring my activity since Monday then why was I not in their office Monday after being logged on to this web site for nearly 8 hours, adn again yesterday and again today for 4 hours???? No they need to use the sexual harrasment and bikini clad ladies together for their own needs. Also I can almost guarantee that i am the only person in that company in the last 6 monthsm this past week, next week and the next month after I leave that was either written up or terminated for wrongful use of the Internet. They picked me out specifically, no one else. As far as I am aware no one has been given any suspensions or written warning for using the internet for non work related sights.

Discrimination: besides being single out I'm going to file for sexual discrimanation. The company has a dress code which they do not follow. The allow women to where short, short skirts, skin tight t-shirts, shirts that show midriff (tummy) and I'm sure i can come up with a couple more examples. But the point being that none of these outfits are allowed!!! The dress code specifaclly states where the kist hem must be, no midriff, no tank tops, and no clothing that could be considered.. damn forgot the wording.


I'm still smiling :) not sure what or where I'm going but I do have a lot of support from my family and Amanda. Amanda again my lifesaver. Yeah I must be mad but at least I can look back and figure out why for the most part.


Oh and one other thing... there are couple of people that have those little Sports Illustrated swimsuit calendars on there desk. Not much different than what i was looking at now is it?? I think I'll take my camera and a newpaper to work and grap a few snapshots :) Wonder if it's too much to print out a few exapmles of some internet history and cookies just to show that I'm not the only one using the interent and why was i the only one being monitored???

LMAO.. I just can't believe this. Maybe that's why I can't get this grin off my face.. I know the afternoon romp with Amanda helped put that on there but it's still there!!!
 
Hey Diary I ust wanted to point out a couple of things. You know back in April I actually tried to commit suicide, twice. Got put on a 72 hour hold at the local hospital psych ward.. that was kind of cool though. My whole world was crashing down on me. i had no control and I don't like that. It just seemed nothing I could do would change the outcome of what was going on. There is a thread in the general chat called... I'm sorry?? Mayeb that's it. But it goes more into detail about what and why it happend.

This time again i don't have control but it's different. I'm looking at things in a different perspective. I could lose my house, my new car, etc... but I'm not going to kill myself. back in April I felt I was losing all those things too and I did try. Why the change in attitude? Well...

I decided last night that life is supposed to be fun. We should enjoy each day, We should be smiling. I couldn't stop thinking about these thoughts and because of that i relaized that i am happy, with or without a house or a new car or even a job that's paid me way too much!!! These things are trivail little bumps in my road of life. I'll have tomorrow or next year to worry about another new car, maybe it won't be for 5 years but who cares. I have people that love me. My kid, oh my little boy. I feel worse about not being able to help his mom out with money right now more than anything. I know she doesn't need it all but still it's the point. By me paying it shows some responsibilty in my childs life.

Another thing that has helped beyond my wildest dreams.. therapy. yes therapy. I have attended 9 session since my April incident and i have learned so much about my self, not all good mind you but still. I give therapy credit for allowing me to handle today's situation so well withou going over the deep end. I'm surprised that i say this stuff because up until 9 weeks ago i thought therapy was a waste of my time and anyone else that thinks they need it. If I can afford it I will continue to go.. besides I have a crush on my Therapist ;)
 
One last note for tonight.. I think.

You know what the best part of having sex is? From start to finish you don't think of anything. Everything that was bugging you today, this wek, last year is non exisitant. It's just you and your partner. Concentrating on what your are tasting, touching, feeling, .... when you look into each otheres eyes you don't see stress or despair or worry. It's almost a blank stare but theres a spark there that lets you know that you two have became one doing this time together.

It's so weird.

late
 
Damn PB...Hang in there. Again, I don't have much to offer, wish I did...just checking into your journal to see how you're doing. I hope things turn around for you...

Joe
 
PB... just visiting.. don't have much time but this is the only place I will visit tonight.

I'm sorry that things are challanging for you. BUT.. you're being challanged for a reason. Prove resilience (sp?) to yourself, get you a better job... spend more time with Carter... whatever... you're strong enough to endure this... and I know you to know that's true.

In any event, my time tonight is limited... need to up date my own journal but right now, you're more important.

I'm sure Amanda's being a great help to you... but know that if you need to talk.. you know how to reach me.
First, foremost and always your freind ~ Suz.
 
Hey honey...and here I was thinking I was the only one whose world was completely upside down!!!!! Things happen for a reason.....mostly for the best!!! I too have a female work-mate (for want of a better title!!) who has also used me and another four co-workers as an attempt to get out of her contract!!! We were all sure she had a hidden agenda...but only when the shyte had hit the fan several times did we actually work it out....hoping for a payout = getting plastic surgery = getting back into air-hostessing!!!!! So you pick on the strongest personallities in the work environment....claim they are harrassing you....give reasons that dont have to be proven/cant be proven....claim how bad its effecting you....and hey presto....they stuff up eveyone elses lives so that they can get the easy way out!!!!! PB...Roger baby.... do you really think you and I are the type to let this shyte keep us down????? So far...mine has been a lot of hot air...the managers know the real story and the hidden agenda.....they now are doing all they can to keep the darlin' smilin'....only we are the ones who are winning.....she will be very very sorry when the truth comes out......and it will...till then....Im the nicest, sweetest, most accommodating person on the team....and isnt that giving her some grief!!!!!

Hope this helps.....Im behind you ......would rather be infront of you....but will have to wait till later on that one!!!! Take all the time you need with Amanda.....cos I recon you will be less frustrated...about at least one part of your day!!!!!!
 
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Good morning PB. I hope you have a better day today. ;)
 
Part 1

Originally posted by Pitboss
There are two girls at work who complained about sexual harrasment, not directly at me though. What was asked of these to girls was to document all accounts since their employment that they considered harrasment. Due to this my name and about 10 other employees showed up on the list. Their greivences were things like, rubbing there back while talking to them. Placing a hand on their shoulder while they were seated at their desk, etc..
1st point... did either of the girls ever express to you guys how the touching made them uncomfortable???

Yes i was guilty of these acts. Did I consider them sexual harrassment no. We were never given a "class" that specifically says this is and this isn't.
2nd point... I agree, where is the company provided sensitivity training???

Now once again how does this relate to me losing my job? Well they are trying to tie in the sexual harrasment stuff and me looking at women clad in bathing suits...
3rd point... did either of these girls ever see you looking at these websites? If so, it could have made them uncomfortable. If not, there is no connection between that and their harrassment claims.

somehow these two go together. I am their scapegoat. I am the only Supervisor in their lists they submitted. IOf they show that they have let me go due to related circumstances then they are taking the steps needed to correct the problems this girl was having. You all follow???
Yeah I follow but I don't by it... a corrective step would be to give everyone sensitivity training.

Wrongfull termination: I agreed to use the Internet for work related purposes only and they state they have been monitoring my activity since Monday then why was I not in their office Monday after being logged on to this web site for nearly 8 hours, adn again yesterday and again today for 4 hours????
I'm sure they didn't call you in right away b/c they wanted to collect more dirt on you and the sites you visit... that's how we do it here :shrug:
 
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Also I can almost guarantee that i am the only person in that company in the last 6 monthsm this past week, next week and the next month after I leave that was either written up or terminated for wrongful use of the Internet. They picked me out specifically, no one else. As far as I am aware no one has been given any suspensions or written warning for using the internet for non work related sights.
4th point... great arguement for your lawyer to use.

Discrimination: besides being single out I'm going to file for sexual discrimanation. The company has a dress code which they do not follow. The allow women to where short, short skirts, skin tight t-shirts, shirts that show midriff (tummy) and I'm sure i can come up with a couple more examples. But the point being that none of these outfits are allowed!!! The dress code specifaclly states where the kist hem must be, no midriff, no tank tops, and no clothing that could be considered.. damn forgot the wording.
5th point... if you don't include this in with the first suit it might look like your just whining. But include it and it could help establish a pattern of irresponsibility on the companies behalf.

Oh and one other thing... there are couple of people that have those little Sports Illustrated swimsuit calendars on there desk. Not much different than what i was looking at now is it?? I think I'll take my camera and a newpaper to work and grap a few snapshots :)
more evidence to prove the company irresponsible...

Hope you have a better day!!!
 
Man PB, sorry to hear about work. Well, if they are going to act like that then perhaps its better to not work there, but of course thats looking at it all 3rd person.

I would definitely do what you can to cover your own ass though, including getting any photographs, scrn prints of cookies (perhaps photographs too using 35mm as that way they cant use the "they were digitally altered" bit), etc. Perhaps you should also talk to the people involved in this. I'm not sure if the girls who are going on about the sexual harassment thing have a problem with you personally, but if you get fired for this and then the girls say they never had a problem with you, perhaps that would look good on your end. Then again, they could just be interested in their pay off, which is very likely.

Anyways, Butterfly has some good advice.

They need to give you warnings - unless someone told you touching them on the back, etc made them uncomfortable, then that just doesnt fit the bill of sexual harassment... and if they didnt warn you about what you were doing on the internet (even when you werent there apparently :rolleyes: ), then they definitely shouldnt fire you over it. If they are that strict with you that they would fire you for checking out IM and Venus, then everybody in the place would be out of work.

Glad to hear that you are taking this well. When it comes down to it, life is the only thing we are really guaranteed in, er, life. Once we die then whats it really matter... but while we are alive this is the greatest gift one could possibly ever have. Even when scraping the bottom of life, just the sights, smells, touches, tastes, friends, pleasure & pain, and yeah, even sex... being alive, you really cant beat it. We take life for granted so often until we realise thats all we have. Not speaking of you necessarily, but definitely myself.

I hope everything turns out well for you. And, ahem, good luck with your therapist.
 
First I wish there was a way for me to say thank you to each and everyone of you in person and not through this devils advocate... he he I swear the Internet is the Devils work!!!!!

I'm doing great people!!! I've been smiling all night long... uh I got stoned for the first time in a long, long time.. so that kind of helped. The Hagen Daas didn't help my diet much though.. LOL

Okay everyone has great points and great thoughts,, thank you.

Butterfly you always have the best questions.. you should have went with the law school route... :)


1st point... did either of the girls ever express to you guys how the touching made them uncomfortable???
Never of these two girls ever said not to do that, or please don't do that it makes me uncomfortable comments or even looks, movements, etc. The part that really bugs me those about these two women is that they continue to talk with me like nothing every happened. They smile and wave, always say hi first. Hell Kristy, the one that is on med leave even went to dinner with me two days before they discussed the harrassment crap to me at work!!! I even paid for dinner.. it was her and another girl so it wasn't just "us"



2nd point... I agree, where is the company provided sensitivity training???
They haven't. The reasonings for bringing all the past harrasment issues to light was so they could put it all behind them and start fresh. fresh by bringing in a company that would give us classes on wht is and what isn't. it has been over 4 months since they said this and nothing yet. Everything that has been said is considered is all word of mouth.

[b/
3rd point... did either of these girls ever see you looking at these websites? If so, it could have made them uncomfortable. If not, there is no connection between that and their harrassment claims.[/b]
No way. But that is how they are trying to connect the two... if by chance i was looking at a picture and someone saw then that could be sexual harrasment... not sure how that works but whatever!!


I'm sure they didn't call you in right away b/c they wanted to collect more dirt on you and the sites you visit... that's how we do it here
Which is all the more reason I want them to fire me for this. It's totally contradictive to their policy. It states all non related sites. it doesn't detail what is and what isn't unrelated. They should have written me up for looking at my HOA website, or IM, or MM or Yahoo.com. This poslicy applies to each and every employee and if I am the only one written up or released then it was obvious they purposely picked me out and that is wrong! Hey I agree that i messed up and I will take the responsibilty and whatever actions they take but I'm sorry in this case it's fair is fair and if one policy applies to me it applies every one else!!
 
Dear Diary,

Not sure if I ever said this but my ex-wife is a bitch.. no really a royal, snotty, bitch!!!!!

Okay i sent this email this morning to her and copied two of my journal entries with it. I called her and asked tha tshe read it and if possible give me some idea's or thoughts. She works for Human Resources in a fortune 500 company and has access to more information I could imagine.

:pitboss:
Hi :)

By the way I'm doing great!!!! I've been wanting out
of there for some time so why not now right?

I have thought about Atlanta but.... I can't do it. I
can't leave Carter. I am going to do what I can to
make ends meet. I have a few things going together
and i think it'll all work out. I won't make as much
money but I think I'll be happier with work.

Oh and I think I have a pretty good case hear... read.

... and yes I do keep a diary. weirdo i know but it
helps me :)
Some of it I would rather not have you see but I'm not
going to edit things out. Sorry if anything upsets
you. [/quote[


:The Bitch:

Whatever tickles your fancy Roger

Just make sure the child support is paid so that Carter can go to
school.
Without that, he'll have to stay home.

You seem to think I don't need the money, but that's because you have a
house a car, etc. I have to save up for all of this. Savings now
that's a
novel concept....... one that I know you don't know what it is - but it
means having to go without my freedom and independence. Again I know
you
don't understand this because you have it all. Congratulations! :-)


Okay and now I understand why there are so many dead beat dads... just out of pure hate, spite for their exes....
 
Like I said before... I don't know about CA but in TX you are required to pay your child support... job or no job. Sorry, that's just how it goes :shrug:

If you end up leaving this job and the new one doesn't pay as much then you can go back to court to request the support be lowered. However, I know judges don't like to see the same cases over and over so you may need to wait 6 mos... asl your lawyer.

On the bright side... if you don't pay the child support she can't refuse you your visitations unless she wants to go to jail. But then again if you don't pay then she can file a complaint and have you put in jail.

Now may be the time to get into making those movies you were thinking of...;)
 
Yo Pitboss, dang, some people have a lack of compassion don't they. From your email, I don't think there was any need for her to get spiteful and defensive. It just goes to show, you can't open up to some people. Since you got Amanda, I'm sure your a winner in any case!
 
Dude, I would imagine the employment acts are different in the States, but up here in Canada ANY company needs to go through the proper channels to fire you, unless it is for something specifically stated in your contract. Verbal warning first, then written warning, and THEN they can fire you. No notice at all makes you have a pretty good case. My father is in corporate law and when I described it to him he said it didn't make sense.

You could always do what Kevin Spacey did in American Beauty and just blackmail them. Get some sensitive information (if you don't have it already) and just screw them. It sounds like they are screwing you pretty good already.
 
Wonder if TP has any advice...
 
Hey PB

Just wanted to stop by and tell you I waz thinkin' of you...

Hang in there sweetie...

:heart:
 
Good morning PB :wave:

Hope you had a great weekend!!!
 
Good morning PB. I, too, like butterfly hope you had a good weekend. Let us know how you are doing.
 
Wednesday July 24, 2002

Dear Diary... miss me???? ;)

Hello to everyone here!!! Special hugs and kisses for those special individuals... ;)

Well I've been keeping busy. Resume, visiting people to make contacts, shopping for some new dress shirts. Seems the old one's don't fit anymore.. LOL. Phone calls like crazy. I've been doing a lot of research for work, different types of work. I also have been trying to find out if I have a case against mt former employer. At this time it doesn't. So I have about 24 hours to make a decision. Do I go back and sign that release and take 2 more weeks pay or do I refuse to sign it and keep going until I find a lawyer who can make a case for me? I've had some people say do it, take it to court. The amount of money they are going to have to pay in lawyer fee's may make them think twice about it and settle out of court. Hmmmm think.........

Got the resume going.. should be getting those out come Monday. I'm thinking of a job that pays okay and I would consider temporary. I have some idea's for my own business.

I'm thinking of picking up a Limousine and start my own service. I't extremely competive I know but considering the overhead expensives are insurance and yearly permits that's not bad. The cost of the limo, pirced them at about 15-17 grand. So no payments, no lease, etc.

I also picked up a Glock19 http://www.glock.com/te_g19.htm
I'm thinking of offering something most limo services don't.. armed protection. I'm hoping to branch out to private security in addition to this. I may not be 6'4" 250 but i do know how to shoot a gun!!!!!! Maybe now I can actually put some of my Marine Corps experience to work.

Now I need to look into how difficult getting a concealed arms permit will be....:eek:

Anyone need a body guard????

Other than that everything has been great!!

Thank you so much everyone for your support, your kind words, the emails, the nude pics... oh sorry wrong group of people. :D

Now I will say my spirits have been great. I'm like a walking smile 24/7 lately. My diet has been crap and i haven't been to the gym since Saturday. I really haven't a clue where my whole day goes.. oh well.

talk to everyone soon!!!!!

XXX

Roger
 
oh and one other note. Not only did I lose my job last week but I also lost a very important person in my life. No it wasn't a death or anything tragic like that. It was a personal choice that was made and one that I will have to learn to respect and come to terms with. I still see this person almost daily and that sometimes makes it difficult. You know when you just want to reach out and say Hi but you can't.

Well it's been almost a year since my sepration and the start of this roller coaster ride in life.... hope it ends soon cause I'm getting dizzy!!!
 
Good to hear from you bro. The limo job sounds like a good plan, but I'd shy away from being a bodyguard. It's too dangerous these days. Sorry to hear about your loss of a friend, it always is a let down when that happens. Life always makes unexpected turns, keep your chin up!
 
WB PB! We missed ya! Sounds like you have some awesome ideas. :thumb:
 
Hey PB ... whatever you gots to do to come with us on vacation next year is cool with us! :lol:

But hearing you're a 24/7 smiling man is great news! The diet and gym will come soon enough.

take care and keep in touch!!

Stephen
 
Thanks all!!!!!

earwax... damn I still laugh everythime I type that!!! I really like the idea of a body guard. It's the danger part that i like :D

NT... oh if I can arrange it I'll be there next year!!!! Just have to decide which is more important, making a house payment or a week of Hedo!!!!!! Gonna be a tough choice!!


Okay update... lawyer finally got back to me. Said to take the money and run. Without solid proof that i was singled out I wouldn't stand a chance. So I'll sign the documents. After a week of thinking about it I can't complain. I enjoyed most of my time with the company. They were kind enough to let everyone know that due to circumstances I had to leave. So no one really knows why which is cool. I can still come and go to say hi. I have know many of these people for almost 11 years and some have become really close to me. Can't lose that now can I?

Get my resume tomorrow or Monday and then hit the streets. I'm just going to dump off applications everywhere i can think of. Some sales positions, service writers for the dealerships, Limo driver ( really would liek this to get an idea of the business) private investigators.. found this online sounds interesting, and probably Personal trainer positions at the gym acroos the street from my house... might as well huh? Doesn't pay at all but it's the experience I'm looking for the money part I'll worry about as it arises.

Okay... off to answer about 10 emails!!!! later all!!!!!!
 
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