g/f meeting "best friends" b/f

[mino lee]

my g/f of just over a year would like to meet up with her girlfriends b/f when he comes to hong kong. my g/f claims that her girlfriend told her to meet up with him when he comes to hong kong.

my g/f has never met this guy. i feel that if she wanted to meet the b/f of her girlfriends' that she should bring me. i think this is both reasonable & normal.

vice versa, wouldn't it be strange if i told my g/f for example, that my guy friend who is in the states wants me to meet up with his g/f when she comes to hong kong and i don't want to bring her???

my g/f however feels that this is fine.

 

[RexStunnahH]

Sounds fishy,if your significant other don't want you tagging along or introducing you to another guy she is gonna start hanging out with.Remeber, when you see smoke,there is usually fire.

 

[bulletproof1]

dump her

 

[gr81]

^^DTB man... ditch that bitch. If she wants to do that tell her she can do whatever she wants without you in the picture, unless you guys are not really serious cuz then it shouldn't really matter

 

[Vieope]

"g/f friend´s b/f of that friend that is my friend´s friend b/f g/f."
I read your post but I can´t understand it.

 

[david]

^^DTB man... ditch that bitch. If she wants to do that tell her she can do whatever she wants without you in the picture, unless you guys are not really serious cuz then it shouldn't really matter

 

[RoCk79]

Well, I would ask her why she does NOT want you to go along....

 

[nikegurl]

she isn't wrong for wanting to meet him but she IS wrong for not having you come along.

 

[Lurker]

You know unless she is concerned about the pressure to him of meeting two strangers versus one.

 

[mino lee]

gr81: don't be a dipshit. she ain't a bitch until i say she is.

Lurkcer: that's the the reason she gave..... that as per her g/f in the states, it would be better to meet just one stranger over two.

he is in hongkong for just a couple of days. anyways, i've told my g/f that this is unacceptable and gave examples of other people we knew and how their b/f's would feel if faced with this type of situation , to try to make her see that i am being objective.

anyways, she will not be meeting him now, but i said that just making the request in the first place wasn't good.

 

[PreMier]

Control freak

 

[gr81]

gr81: don't be a dipshit. she ain't a bitch until i say she is.

oh, ok man.. it was just a general statement. I couldn't possibly call her a bitch b/c I know absolutely nothing about her.. if she is wanting to meet other guys by herself thou then I would re evaluate your relationship, thats all I'm saying. btw they are all bitches, get it right

 

[mino lee]

control freak? ....smart ass.........and how would u handle the situation? would u let your g/f go ahead?

 

[solid10]

Sneak up and have a threesome!

 

[austinite]

Should have told her no problem and then had her followed.

 

[BoneCrusher]

control freak? ....smart ass.........and how would u handle the situation? would u let your g/f go ahead?

Yuuup. If she is gonna be my other half she WILL be faithful. If she went and came back with a lot of funky drama and non-matching details then she is fired. Not gonna control a woman, chase a woman, tell a woman right from wrong, train a woman on how I "think" things are. Truth is truth ... real is real. I either trust the woman 100% or I am single. I got no time for bullshit.

 

[bulletproof1]

dump her

 

[QuestionGuy]

something is fishy about that man, but even if she is not gona meet that guy, if she really wants to play on you she will no matter what you do... That sure did sound fishy of her, and to be honest i beleive that she was planning something, but u never know...............
I trust my girlfriend a 1000% and i know she wouldn't do that, but i really dont let her know that because you never know how people would take advantage of your kindnes...

 

[M.J.H.]

It's not a big deal for her to meet him, or even to spend time with him. But I see no reason why she shouldn't invite you come along as well.

 

[BoneCrusher]

Flip it around. What freedom would expect from her ...

 

[PreMier]

Yuuup. If she is gonna be my other half she WILL be faithful. If she went and came back with a lot of funky drama and non-matching details then she is fired. Not gonna control a woman, chase a woman, tell a woman right from wrong, train a woman on how I "think" things are. Truth is truth ... real is real. I either trust the woman 100% or I am single. I got no time for bullshit.

There you go Mino. BC just answered this for me. If you cant trust the girl you are with you are wasting your time.
Its not like she wont meet other guys while she is out shopping or going to school by herself. And if you do trust her, and you still question her after she said she wanted to meet someone, you are a control freak. Im not a fucking smart ass, I am telling you how I see the situation.

 

[shutupntra1n]

If you find yourself "reading into" simple things and because of this they are becoming complicated then you don't trust her and therefor let her go.

 

[Muscle_Girl]

btw they are all bitches, get it right

Guess I missed this one..

FUCK YOU!

 

[gr81]

god damm, you sure know how to sweet talk a guy don'tcha! hey you can't hate, it even says in your AVI to call you a biatch so there... whats new with you MG?

 

[mino lee]

premiere, shutup&train & bonecrusher, yes. i think the bottom line is the trust issue.

 

[MaxMirkin]

Trust is important......which motel was she gonna meet this guy in?

 

[david]

 

[bulletproof1]

dump her

 

[Paynne]

It's really hard to tell from a short post on a msg board. My wife once went on a cruise without me. I trust her 100% so I told her to go. But then some of the things she did/said leading up to it got kinda fishy and the sum of all of them made me blow my top. I don't think she did anything wrong now but at the time maybe I was reading into things too much.


On the other hand, if nothing was going on, her response should have been for you to come along, not drop it altogether. So like I said....it's hard to tell.
If you're freaked enough about it to post on a msg board I would say you two have some talking to do.

 

[mino lee]

max mirkin: fuck you.

does bullet proof have any other shit to say but "dump her" over and over again.

Paynne: yup. i've talked to her. she didn't end up going, but i felt it was really fishy that she made the request in the first place. her reason being he is shy enough as it is to meet one person he doesn't know, little less 2 at the same time.

the reason for my post is NOT TO GET ADVICE. the reason is to see if i was being too sensitive, or if other guys would feel the same way in my situation.