help, girlfriend issues

[nova1970sb]

Have you asked her what she expects in the way of a long term relationship. Does she want that piece of paper signifying serious commitment? Apparantly she feels that something is wrong and life is moving on. She probably needs time to reassess what her life is all about and where it is headed. We get only one crack at this life, so let us not mess it up. She may be wondering where this relationship will be 20 years or more down the road.
saltflat

honestly 3 weeks ago i would have been all in for putting a ring on this girls finger, now i see why most relationships fail.

i still have no clue whats going on in her head, she said she needed even more time so i said take as much as you want and call me when you decide to grow up.

all i know is this last week i have been having a blast, getting in touch with old friends i havent seen in forever!

 

[NeilPearson]

honestly 3 weeks ago i would have been all in for putting a ring on this girls finger, now i see why most relationships fail.

i still have no clue whats going on in her head, she said she needed even more time so i said take as much as you want and call me when you decide to grow up.

all i know is this last week i have been having a blast, getting in touch with old friends i havent seen in forever!

That's cool... enjoy the time!

 

[CORUM]

went through the EXACT same thing..... that whole she my world bit, you would be surprised that puts a lot of undo stress on a woman. they dont want to be your world, they want to be ur partner. dont put that chick on a pedistool!!! TRUST me i made the mistake, it ended in a divorce!!! just let her go for now (know it is hard) go date a few other chicks, generally when other women get interested, it sparks a jealousy thing. then they realize "WOW, i am not his world!! he WILL move on." then they usually come back. then it's on you whether u take her back or not.

from my experience, woman that act like this, tend to go back and forth. so generally it is more of a hassle than it is worth. you will get back together, you'll get all wrapped up in her again. then she will pull the same shit. it may be time to just let that one go!!!

 

[sprayherup]

Dude, all women are whores. They're the biggest liars on Earth and hide it well.

Do yourself a favor and forget about this bitch and go enjoy life. Go out and spray up random women.

GICH!

 

[noormuscle]

Dude, all women are whores. They're the biggest liars on Earth and hide it well.

Do yourself a favor and forget about this bitch and go enjoy life. Go out and spray up random women.

GICH!

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WOW , JUST THE GRAMMAR THAT TERRIFIES ME

REST THIS MAN IS TRUE , DONT WASTE UR TIME IN WOMEN

THEY R LIKE buses and trains one goes , the next will come.

MY FRIEND WENT AFTR A GIRL , HE LEFT BODYBUILDING AND SHE LEFT HIM.

DONT WASTE UR TIME ON GIRLS, TELL U LOVE UR FAMILY & DONT RUN AFTR OTHERS.

when find the right girl u will know it , dont strain urself , be cooooll man

soulja boy

 

[Dark Geared God]

 

[nova1970sb]

some good info from some people on this thread, but to all the fellas who responded, "go hit another hole, or all women are whores", or anything like for that matter, i can honestly say i feel sorry for you. I hope you grow up, settle down, and live the rest of your lives happy. but with that attitude, i just see you guys growing sad and lonely. stuff like that may be fun for now, but i always think about tomorrow.

 

[unclem]

youll never figure a woman out so dont even try those wacky fuckin bitches, my wife included. she gets all bent around that time of the month. if she left tomm. it would hurt but 20 yrs with her i wouldnt flinch an ounce iam done with that shit. and she knows i dont give a fuck. iam stone cold prick when it comes to woman they gave me a bad taste when i was in my teens and before i got married. ill get over the hurt and move on if it happens. i aint crawling up no fucking womans ass , and i dont care if shes mrs america. fuck um. imho.

 

[MuskokaGirl]

You are basically out of luck...

 

[1yop]

shes indirectly dumping u i guess. carry on with your life and find someone new. or sit and have a chat with her and make things clear.

 

[nova1970sb]

shes indirectly dumping u i guess. carry on with your life and find someone new. or sit and have a chat with her and make things clear.

wow, this was a old thread. i moved on, she got all upset and actually cried when i told her that i wasnt going to put my life on hold for anyone. i havent talked to her since, she tried texting me wanting to hang out a few days ago, but i just ignored it. but anyways i broke it off officially and no more worries.

 

[Little Wing]

good for you.

 

[Harmsway456]

Wow, I gotta say you came a long way from her being your life to ignoring her all together. I'm happy that you aren't still hung up on her, but it makes me wonder how much you really needed her to begin with.

I still have rotten dreams about my first love that's been over for more than 8 years. I couldn't be happier in my life with my very very soon to be wife, but the sub-conscious is a fucked up place and never forgets.

 

[nova1970sb]

dont get me wrong i do miss her dearly, but im not going to go through it again. im going to think with my brain on this one and not my heart

 

[Dark Geared God]

 

[unclem]

nova iam glad u moved on. i was wondering wat happened also but didnt want to get flamed. good going brother.

 

[Dark Geared God]

u will be fine

 

[jmorrison]

Thats the way to be bro. Sometimes I still miss my ex wife, but not very often, and most of the time I am as happy as can be in my new relationship and dont bother thinking about her at all.

 

[talithakoum]

one thing to i did ask her if she was done and we were over, and she said no. do you think that changes anything?

nova, maybe i'm completely wrong to say this, but it sounds like she wants to "keep you on the hook" in case "plan b" doesn't work out....not that she has someone else. it sounds like she wants to "test the waters" or sow some oats. i am a female & i know from experience that there's nothing more unattractive to a man than a woman hanging onto his pants leg. conversely, it's equally unattractive for a man to make a woman the complete center of his life. i'm not trying to push religion on anyone, but do you have a Higher Power? PLEASE DO NOT MAKE THIS WOMAN YOUR HIGHER POWER! i have made that mistake...and for me, it had to do with MY own issues of low self-esteem, etc. not trying to play the counselor here, but it may be a good idea for you to get into counseling to explore why you believe this woman gives you your self-worth. that is always a dangerous thing. i'm sorry you're hurting; i have been there. you WILL be fine...keep a stiff upper lip, hit the gym when you're feeling anxious & know that there has to be someone out there who is better for you. i know that doesn't seem possible & that you don't want anyone else (right now). take care, lisa

 

[unclem]

hey lisa, but he said he already moved on and is ignoring her. thats a step in the right direction. good to hear a womans point of view though. me, i could care less if my wife leaves and she nos it. been through that shit before, now fuck it go if you want and that gets up my wifes ass.

 

[nova1970sb]

yes all is good, and thanks everyone for the comments. i dont know why i held her on such a high pedestal. and no i dont believe in a god Lisa.

 

[talithakoum]

unclem, sorry, i missed where he said he had already moved on. i'm new to this website & am still learning how to navigate around. yeah, it's great to love people but not to hold them in too high esteem. we don't mean to, but sometimes we let each other down. in the meantime, i am happily unattached except to my 5 dogs who are supremely loyal! LOL (that's good your wife knows where you stand....)

 

[Domas]

I was glad to see you are OK after everything, you did a good thing, no need to stick around and wait for her, live your life...

 

[Brandibeth]

Most of the time a girl, inmy case at least, isnt going to break up with somebody unless there is another potential waiting. Especially if you guys really dont fight and laugh and stuff together. sorry

 

[HialeahChico305]

wow, this was a old thread. i moved on, she got all upset and actually cried when i told her that i wasnt going to put my life on hold for anyone. i havent talked to her since, she tried texting me wanting to hang out a few days ago, but i just ignored it. but anyways i broke it off officially and no more worries.

Isnt it funny when they repent after months of been dumped? After all the attention we man give some girls they don't value it and eventually lose us. I find it hilarious, its a good thing you din't answer back , better yet next time have one of your close girlfriends answer the phone, I always like to cause drama that way. lay back and watch them go back and forth on the phone about whos their daddy.

 

[Brandibeth]

Unfortunetly thats why we like guys who can be a little bit of an ass. If you give us too much attention we think you are kinda wooped, there for we dont have to work as hard at the relationship. Girls like guys who they have to work at keeping their attention. I dont want to date a guy that 1.) I think I could beat up and 2.) that I dont feel at all that I dont have to chase.

 

[IronAddict]

Dude, don't ever get stuck on one woman.

I'm not sure of your age, but I know the first woman I was ever with, she's no longer around. And I can say that about all my boy's too.

Women are like buses, another cruises by in 20 minutes!

 

[Brandibeth]

Men are like sports cars, most women dont know how to handle stick shifts, but the ones that do know how to handle them like to go fast and they get to stay in the garage.

 

[IronAddict]

Are you married, or in a meaningful relationship?

Cause, I have relations there in TX......

 

[Brandibeth]

Relations? lol Running for president?