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Heres the story.

Me and my gf have been dating for 1 year now. We always had our problems but it was the kind of relationship you new nothing was going to happen, like no matter what we would be there and we would never break up. We were actually going to move in together eventually and get married.

About a few weeks ago we starting having some larger problems. We fight alot and we argue. There was still no trouble because we always fixed it in the end. About 1 week ago I got into an argument with her because i didnt like how she was acting and I said something I never should have. I cant go into detail what I said but she got very upset with that and ever since she has been acting weird.

Everything again started to get better and even she said she felt closer until 2 days ago she called me up and she started saying some things that were pissing me off and i just kept quiet. Out of knowhere she goes you know what this is how its going to be: Im going to smoke, Im going to wear w/e I want, Im going to act how I want, and im going to hang around anyone I want to. She was implying I have no say. She says if you dont agree than dont be with me.

I didnt agree and I saw her today at an event. She was avoiding me and than she said she wanted to talk. I thought I had her back but than out of knowhere she said she needs some time to get over what I said to her. She said shes very angry about it and she said she still wants to be with me and marry me but she needs to be on a break so she can get over this anger she has towards me. I was hesitant at first and she started crying and I agreed. I told her that Ill do this break but I have a time limit and if she doesnt hurry up im not waiting around anymore.

I am very upset and I dont want her doing w/e she pleases. How do i get her to want me back now and how do I get the power in the relationship again. If I dont have the power we will never make it.

Please help me out guys im desperate here!
 
Guru said:
Heres the story.

Me and my gf have been dating for 1 year now. We always had our problems but it was the kind of relationship you new nothing was going to happen, like no matter what we would be there and we would never break up. We were actually going to move in together eventually and get married.

About a few weeks ago we starting having some larger problems. We fight alot and we argue. There was still no trouble because we always fixed it in the end. About 1 week ago I got into an argument with her because i didnt like how she was acting and I said something I never should have. I cant go into detail what I said but she got very upset with that and ever since she has been acting weird.

Everything again started to get better and even she said she felt closer until 2 days ago she called me up and she started saying some things that were pissing me off and i just kept quiet. Out of knowhere she goes you know what this is how its going to be: Im going to smoke, Im going to wear w/e I want, Im going to act how I want, and im going to hang around anyone I want to. She was implying I have no say. She says if you dont agree than dont be with me.

I didnt agree and I saw her today at an event. She was avoiding me and than she said she wanted to talk. I thought I had her back but than out of knowhere she said she needs some time to get over what I said to her. She said shes very angry about it and she said she still wants to be with me and marry me but she needs to be on a break so she can get over this anger she has towards me. I was hesitant at first and she started crying and I agreed. I told her that Ill do this break but I have a time limit and if she doesnt hurry up im not waiting around anymore.

I am very upset and I dont want her doing w/e she pleases. How do i get her to want me back now and how do I get the power in the relationship again. If I dont have the power we will never make it.

Please help me out guys im desperate here!
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Quit crying you pussy, it's over and she sounds like a rotten bitch...
 
Guru said:
Heres the story.

Me and my gf have been dating for 1 year now. We always had our problems but it was the kind of relationship you new nothing was going to happen, like no matter what we would be there and we would never break up. We were actually going to move in together eventually and get married.

About a few weeks ago we starting having some larger problems. We fight alot and we argue. There was still no trouble because we always fixed it in the end. About 1 week ago I got into an argument with her because i didnt like how she was acting and I said something I never should have. I cant go into detail what I said but she got very upset with that and ever since she has been acting weird.

Everything again started to get better and even she said she felt closer until 2 days ago she called me up and she started saying some things that were pissing me off and i just kept quiet. Out of knowhere she goes you know what this is how its going to be: Im going to smoke, Im going to wear w/e I want, Im going to act how I want, and im going to hang around anyone I want to. She was implying I have no say. She says if you dont agree than dont be with me.

I didnt agree and I saw her today at an event. She was avoiding me and than she said she wanted to talk. I thought I had her back but than out of knowhere she said she needs some time to get over what I said to her. She said shes very angry about it and she said she still wants to be with me and marry me but she needs to be on a break so she can get over this anger she has towards me. I was hesitant at first and she started crying and I agreed. I told her that Ill do this break but I have a time limit and if she doesnt hurry up im not waiting around anymore.

I am very upset and I dont want her doing w/e she pleases. How do i get her to want me back now and how do I get the power in the relationship again. If I dont have the power we will never make it.

Please help me out guys im desperate here!
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Well, it really depends on what was said in the first place that made her so mad. In my experience, there are a few magic phrases that fuck things up so bad, there is no fixing it. Unfortunately at this point I would imagine you just have to wait it out. If it's truly meant to be, she'll come to her senses, but you'll probably have to give her some space for a little while. I know you told her that you won't wait around, but if you love her like you say you do, she's worth it.
 
Guru said:
If I dont have the power we will never make it.
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you have the power!!!!!! With our five powers combined, we for captain planet!!!!!!!!!


In all seriousness, just go out and hook up with another girl and she will come running back. Unless you are ugly, in which case you have no options.
 
It's over. Now go listen to some emo songs. :rolleyes:
 
This is a typical situation. Have her define precisely what can be done on said break. She left it ambiguous because she is going to go looking for some other dude and you are going to wait for her. If she can get something better she will, but she doesn't want her safety net pulled out from under her. I would find out exactly what can and can't be done on the break. I am all for having great relationships, but if you turn down some sweet chick because you have a girlfriend who ends up fucking some dude in the meantime, your man card should be revoked and your balls should be cut off.
 
If you want my opinoin, move on! but to answer your question:

  • call her once for every three times she calls you
  • dont answer the phone every time she calls
  • get busy
  • hang out with your friends
  • go pick up other chicks
  • dont act like your going to mary this chick, your not you just gonna bang her until someone better comes along
  • whenever she does some thing to "test" you (smoke, wear w/e she wants) ignore it!!!!
  • if she ever bitches about anything about you, say thankyou and treat it as a compliment!

thats just what I can think of! look, you've abviously been acting like a total pussy and a pussy whipped bitch! and youve done some serious damage to your relationship, as it seems she cant respect you anymore! remeber when you first started dating andyou used to prioritize your own life over hanging out with her?? remember that?? go back to being like that and for gods sake guive the poor girl some space!
 
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MyK said:
If you want my opinoin, move on! but to answer your question:
  • call her once for every three times she calls you
  • dont answer the phone every time she calls
  • get busy
  • hang out with your friends
  • go pick up other chicks
  • dont act like your going to mary this chick, your not you just gonna bang her until someone better comes along
  • whenever she does some thing to "test" you (smoke, wear w/e she wants) ignore it!!!!
  • if she ever bitches about anything about you, say thankyou and treat it as a compliment!
thats just what I can think of! look, you've abviously been acting like a total pussy and a pussy whipped bitch! and youve done some serious damage to your relationship, as it seems she cant respect you anymore! remeber when you first started dating andyou used to prioritize your own life over hanging out with her?? remember that?? go back to being like that and for gods sake guive the poor girl some space!
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:clapping::clapping::clapping::clapping:

:bow:
 
MyK said:
If you want my opinoin, move on! but to answer your question:

  • call her once for every three times she calls you
  • dont answer the phone every time she calls
  • get busy
  • hang out with your friends
  • go pick up other chicks
  • dont act like your going to mary this chick, your not you just gonna bang her until someone better comes along
  • whenever she does some thing to "test" you (smoke, wear w/e she wants) ignore it!!!!
  • if she ever bitches about anything about you, say thankyou and treat it as a compliment!

thats just what I can think of! look, you've abviously been acting like a total pussy and a pussy whipped bitch! and youve done some serious damage to your relationship, as it seems she cant respect you anymore! remeber when you first started dating andyou used to prioritize your own life over hanging out with her?? remember that?? go back to being like that and for gods sake guive the poor girl some space!
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To add to this, getting a 6 figure job wouldn't hurt either.
 
Women are attracted to certain traits. Women will test you and challenge you to see if you have these traits. If you start failing these tests, the tests will become tougher and more intense, and her attraction for you declines.

Confidence is the LACK OF INSECURITY.

Dominance is not being DOMINEERING. Dominance means being a leader; domineering (control-freak) belies insecurity. Dominance/domineering, control/controlling.

You can be both selfish and generous at the same time. Being selfish isn???t necessarily a bad thing. It means that you expect the best for yourself and you don???t sell yourself short.

Composure/unflappability: Always keep your cool.

Being selective, and communicate that you???re selective. Not just with women, but with all things in life. Don???t settle for crap!

Be judgmental: Don???t overdo it, but the more you comment on other people, the more you appear as the authority. Use humour (think Triumph the Insult Comic Dog).

Don???t accept second class behaviour or treatment from others. ???I don???t accept second-class behaviour from myself or from anyone else. If you show me second-class behaviour, I won???t want to deal with you.???

Be territorial: Talk about how only good people enter your house, how this is a place of good energy and there???ll be no drama there. Talk about how this is a safe place where she can be free to do what she wants. If you???re in public and someone is in your space, ask them to leave. Carve out some territory. Sit at a bigger table. Spread out when you sit down.

Being in control of yourself and your sex drive. Pull back after kissing for a bit, etc. Demonstrate you???re in control of your sex drive, but just BARELY.

Live in your own reality. Reality is what YOU make of it. Consider other people as GUESTS IN YOUR REALITY, and not as masters/definers of your reality.

Physical way to communicate these traits: Gestures, posture, strong eye contact. LIFT THE CHEST (it does a lot to your whole body). Use slow, deliberate gestures and speak slowly.
 
Testing

Women test men for all sorts of reasons, and it???s mostly an unconscious process. Attractive women have a lot of options, and prefer men who are STRONG OF CHARACTER. If you were an attractive woman being chased by hundreds of guys, how would you go about eliminating the losers? You???d TEST them, in subtle ways that test for strength and personality. If you did this on a regular enough basis, this behaviour would become unconscious and automatic.

Women will ALWAYS test you! Deal with it, learn how to handle it, and move on.

A couple concepts to keep in mind:

1) Get over the idea of JUST BEING YOURSELF. For most guys, just being themselves is being a manipulative, ass-kissing wimp. They like to give women gifts, act submissive, call them all the time, which is actually manipulative behaviour in that it???s NOT being themselves.

2) Women interpret everything. They don???t take things at face value???they read into everything. Learn to communicate subtly in a way that???s NOT explicit. If it???s explicit or direct, it???s suspect. She???ll wonder ???Does he really mean that???? By keeping your communications implicit and ambiguous, she can figure it out for herself.

3) Always remember that to a woman, it???s all ???part of the story???. You don???t want to use standalone techniques one after the other. You need to fulfill women???s fantasies of the romantic story that just happens, and unfolds.
 
Attitudes

1. There is NO downside. There???s nothing to lose at any time with a woman. IT DOESN???T MATTER.
2. I???m indifferent to the outcome. Detach yourself emotionally from any outcome. If it doesn???t happen, it???s really no big deal. It doesn???t matter! If you???re not indifferent, you worry about screwing things up.
3. I???m a catch, and time with me is rare and valuable. If you spend time with a woman, SHE is getting the better end of the deal.
4. She wants me, but I???m going to tease her to see HOW MUCH! You know for sure that if she got to know you, she???d want you.
5. She???s going to have to prove herself to me that she???s ABOVE AVERAGE. Her exterior appearance doesn???t entitle her to special treatment.
 
MyK said:
Testing

If you were an attractive woman being chased by hundreds of guys, how would you go about eliminating the losers?
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$$$
 
Dale Mabry said:
This is a typical situation. Have her define precisely what can be done on said break. She left it ambiguous because she is going to go looking for some other dude and you are going to wait for her. If she can get something better she will, but she doesn't want her safety net pulled out from under her. I would find out exactly what can and can't be done on the break. I am all for having great relationships, but if you turn down some sweet chick because you have a girlfriend who ends up fucking some dude in the meantime, your man card should be revoked and your balls should be cut off.
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I did find out. We cannot see other people and we are still talking and she wants to see me this weekend and hang out. She said she is just angry with what i said and she has resentment towards me and she needs time to get over being mad. Idk what to think, do you?
 
16 Specific Techniques

1. Never give a woman a direct answer, unless it???s NO. ???Did you like that kiss???? ???YOU obviously did???.

2. Answer questions with questions that implicate her, or get her to commit to something. ???What are you doing Friday night???? ???Well, what did you have in mind???? or ???Why, what were you going to do for me????

3. If she complains or doesn???t like something, turn it up and give it back to her. She says ???I don???t like that station???, you turn it up a notch and smile at her. You don???t have to be an ass, you can tone it down after. But just show that you aren???t easily controlled and are independent of what she thinks.
4. Never give a woman exactly what she asks for. ???Will you take me to Cheesecake Factory on Friday at 7:00???? ???No, I???ll pick you up at 8:00 and we???ll go to The Keg.???

5. Always send mixed signals. For example, be physically generous and giving, but verbal communication-wise be busting on her.

6. Use the technique of ???Let???s be friends???. When sexual tension is built up, say ???It???s going to be nice getting together with you, if nothing else you seem like you???d make a nice friend. See you tomorrow.??? Communicates that you???re not needy, that you???re not going to just jump her bones because she???s a woman.

7. Don???t be predictable! Don???t wear the same clothes, don???t go out to the same place all the time, don???t always talk about the same things.

8. Don???t be BORING! Don???t be average, don???t do the same thing that 90% of the guys she meets do.

9. Be DISTINCTIVE. Find ways to be unique in a preferential way. Don???t buy the same shoes everybody???s wearing, or get a distinctive haircut. Don???t talk about boring hobbies, talk about the interesting stuff. Order distinctive drinks at the bar.

10. Never act apologetic. Don???t act insecure, or like you???re trying to gain approval.

11. Two steps forward, one step back. You???re always making progress, but when you make progress, you stop and you step back a little bit. As soon as you can tell she likes what you???re doing, STOP???lean back???.and make her want more of it.

12. Never let the line go slack. Sexual tension is about TENSION. You???re always sensitive to the sweet spot, the right amount of tension to achieve your goal. Don???t do too little and don???t cross the line.

13. Always raise and call her bluff. If a woman gives you some tension or tests you, call her on it. ???I???m leaving, that???s it??? ???Ok. Don???t let the door hit you ass on the way out???. In most cases she wasn???t planning to follow through???it was a TEST.

14. Once you find a cocky/funny role that???s working, stick with it.

15. Lead and move forward confidently. Be decisive, and decide what???s gonna happen. Order for her at dinner, walk ahead of her and open the door for her. Step forward confidently. If a woman doesn???t like what you???re doing, don???t apologize for it. Act like it???s her problem.

16. Don???t be a WUSSY! If you see yourself slipping into wuss mode, IMMEDIATELY stop, and step back. Hang up the phone. If you have to, walk away. ???You know, this really isn???t working for me anymore. I think I???m just going to bring you home, and go relax.???



I've highlighted the ones that mostly apply to you!
 
Guru said:
I did find out. We cannot see other people and we are still talking and she wants to see me this weekend and hang out. She said she is just angry with what i said and she has resentment towards me and she needs time to get over being mad. Idk what to think, do you?
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I think you got the shaft, I would want to be banging other girls. You see, women can put boom boom on hold because it will always be there. Even the nastiest pig can get a guy so it isn't that big of a deal to them. Guys, on the other hand, have a short window to get laid, and typically have to settle for one 1-2 points lower than they want to. It is simple supply and demand, she's got the supply that you demand and she will sell it when she wants. Flip the script, tell her it is probably a good idea to take time off and that you are confused. Play the game, son, play the game.
 
If she can't find anything better then yes. But she has you wrapped around her finger, use some of myk's stuff, it would probably work.
 
"If you love someone, set them free. If they don't come back, hunt 'em down and kill 'em"
 
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i'm surprised noone has thought it a little off that you seem to need to control her. if you want a woman that will "mind" you adopt a child. if you are with a woman who obviously doesn't share your values... smokes when you value health, dresses like a slut and so on then dump her ass and find a woman who behaves like you expect a woman to behave. that is not the lazy mans answer i'm sure but you can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear and you can't love someone you don't respect. if you respect someone you won't try to control them.
 
Little Wing said:
i'm surprised noone has thought it a little off that you seem to need to control her. if you want a woman that will "mind" you adopt a child. if you are with a woman who obviously doesn't share your values... smokes when you value health, dresses like a slut and so on then dump her ass and find a woman who behaves like you expect a woman to behave. that is not the lazy mans answer i'm sure but you can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear and you can't love someone you don't respect. if you respect someone you won't try to control them.
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:thumb: If she does (or wants to do) all these things that you disapprove of... WHY THE HELL DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH HER? She is what she is. You're not going to change her. She may pretend that she isn't that for a while for you but eventually it is going to come out. Don't try and change her. Find someone who values the same things you do... you will never fully trust this girl to not be doing the things you don't want her to do if she has already shown a desire to do them... and guess what, if she has a history of doing things you don't agree with, she will continue to do those things. This is not a good situation. Dump her and find someone you are more compatible with.
 
See if you can get one more ride out of her. Then dump her ass to the curb
 
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