Ive been in a thousand fights. Not cause I wanted to, I hate the things. But Im always running into drunk,doped out, fools who are intent on breaking the law,fighting me, and I "have to" do something.
Funny story, a couple of months ago we got a call of a disturbance at a club. This guy, a pro-bodybuilder whom I wont name here, started a bunch of trouble with an ex and her new jocker. He, the BB, caught the two of them in bed earlier in the day and tho he didnt do anything at the time, he had had a few hours to not only stew on the whole thing but also drink about 19 gallons of booze to get into the proper frame of mine. So the BB went into the joint 5 mins before closing and told the two of them he was going to wait outside for them, at which time, he was going to dismember them both like a chicken dinner.
The jocker, understandably frightened, called the Police. Which is how I got involved with this guy. This BB was a monster, a monster!! He was about 6' tall and about 9' wide and he made no pretensions about killing these two when they came out of the club. All I could think about was, "what could I possibly do to stop this guy if he go's off"? And Im no little guy mind you. Forget pepper mace, he probably spices his tacos with the stuff. I dont think I could even have put a dent in the guy with a baseball bat.
So you know what I did? I said something to the mngr of the place and went back to the BB. I told him the two were going to come out in 10 mins and "she" wanted to talk to him. Then I started talking BB'ing with him, his favorite topic and one of mine. About 20 mins later he remembered what he was out there for and asked where the two were. I made an act of going back in,coming out, and telling him the two must have skipped and werent there anymore. I shook hands with the guy and left. The reality was I had told the mngr to sneak the two out the back while I engaged the monster in conversation.
Why am I telling you this you ask? Two reasons! The first lesson is that when it comes down to defending yourself there is nothing even close to more important then having muscle. Muscle is the greatest equalizer there is. This BB probably could have taken on 10 Bruce Lees, and certainly 20 cops.
#2, The best way to win a fight is to avoid one. When people flip me the bird in traffic altercations, at least in my pvt auto, I wave and smile at them. I think you should have a "talk" with this guy who is abusing yor woman. While not someone who goes out of his way to get in fights, I believe this is one area where a bully should get his bluff called. I cant stand bullys! If he calls his own bluff and attacks you then by all means smack him around some but keep it "reasonable". When he gives up its over, try to avoid giving permanent injury.
Theres a good chance you,him, or both might get arrested and the one who's most reasonable will win out legally. Its best if hes on the one who comes to you, legally at least. Best of all is to avoid it altogether. But listen, I understand, Im still old fashoined when it comes to protecting woman too.
But many fistfights nowdays are ended with a 9mm going off. It didnt use to be like that but times have changed. I know you cant always avoid fistfights but 99% of them are avoidable. For the other 1% theres nothing quite like pumping iron, along with sobriety, to win them............best of luck................Rich