mmafiter
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Do you consider cyber sex cheating?
Do you consider cyber sex cheating?
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Is cyber sex cheating?
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Yes, it's cheating to some extent.
Damn, then I'm guilty of adultry.
MMa, I say it all depends on the motives. if it's in fun or nonserious then no. Either that or I'm screwed 
. However, this may discredit or agree w/ me, but as it infers in "the good book", sins of the mind are no less evil than those acted upon. But I still say it's all in the reason. Oh, and btw, that sig ain't helpin' the feline population.
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. However, this may discredit or agree w/ me, but as it infers in "the good book", sins of the mind are no less evil than those acted upon. But I still say it's all in the reason. Oh, and btw, that sig ain't helpin' the feline population. Peace
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I think so... its all about motives.
When your walking down the street its one thing to check out the rear of a passing hot chick, and completely another to grab it and ask her if she wants to get it on.
When your on the internet its one thing to flirt and joke around, and another to cyber.
Obviously if your asking this question though you've thought about it and come to one answer or another... so lets cut to the chase and ask this in a truer form:
"Do you really care?" or "If there was a no chance of getting caught cheating would you do it?"
Of course, its an entirely different subject if your partner wants you to/joins in
Eggs
When your walking down the street its one thing to check out the rear of a passing hot chick, and completely another to grab it and ask her if she wants to get it on.
When your on the internet its one thing to flirt and joke around, and another to cyber.
Obviously if your asking this question though you've thought about it and come to one answer or another... so lets cut to the chase and ask this in a truer form:
"Do you really care?" or "If there was a no chance of getting caught cheating would you do it?"
Of course, its an entirely different subject if your partner wants you to/joins in
Eggs
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I agree with that...For me...cyber is just like watching a good porn flick...or reading a supposed letter in a stick mag!!!! Only this way you get to choose whether you in it or not!!!! The motto that runs with cyber is...... You can look in the shop window...but it doesnt mean you have to go in and buy!!!! Its harmless as long as boundaries are set right from the word go....other wise there is no one to blam but yourself!!!! That and the delete button!!!!
I think MissD could answer this one.........she is a pro. he he
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i know my girlfriend would be mad as hell if she found out i was doing it, but if she doesn't find out i don't see anything wrong with it
wait if cyber sex counts as cheating would it count as getting some?
wait if cyber sex counts as cheating would it count as getting some?
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According to my wife...If it feels goo and is fun...Then it's cheating...
mmafiter
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I agree it's about motives. Do I really care? Well if my mate kept doing it with the same person then yes, I'm gonna be extremely pissed. I think it's pretty disrespectful, beause it's not like porn, where you have no real interaction and you are basically using the porn as an objetc. Cybersex, is more intimate and personal.
Would I do it? No.....it's not my thing, I don't really understand what guys "get" out of it. Men are more visually sexually oriented, we like to see what were fukin'. Women, on the other hand like the intimacy and mental connection, you know the whole "I found a soul mate and he makes me feel like a whole person" crap.
Here's a follow-up question; If you found out your mate was continually engaging in this type of behaviour with one person, would it be a relationship "breaker"?
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Depends who YOU are having Cybersex with! Say Pam Anderson in this instance....
Well for one, she's unobtainable, and secondly w8 is hot for her, so I would say that would be OK. (Wear a body condom)
Now if you were having something going on with Mule, or Albob, I would say that's OK too, because she can't compete, unless she brings a strap-on or something
However, if the someone is in your town, maybe that you know or work with, is addressing you on the PC, then I would have to say NO!
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Well for one, she's unobtainable, and secondly w8 is hot for her, so I would say that would be OK. (Wear a body condom)
Now if you were having something going on with Mule, or Albob, I would say that's OK too, because she can't compete, unless she brings a strap-on or something
However, if the someone is in your town, maybe that you know or work with, is addressing you on the PC, then I would have to say NO!
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CRASHMAN I'm gonna have to disagree. You're sole criteria is whether or not you get CAUGHT. By that logic you can do anything under the sun and it's not cheating unless your mate finds out. Sorry, I just can't see that.
My answer to the original question: No. And I'm gonna use mmafiter's logic here. Men are "physical" creatures. It's not cheating unless there's PHYSICAL contact. I know what cornfed quoted from "the good book" but still don't buy that. I'm more in tune with Esmerelda; window shopping is fine as long as you don't BUY anything. In this case you're not even allowed to try something on. DAMN, I was looking forward to the dressing room too.
It's cheating whether it's a male or female. It's probably worse if a female is doing it since they are more emotionally driven rather than physical.
Yes, it would be a relationship breaker.
Albob, that logic is wacked!
Yes, it would be a relationship breaker.
Albob, that logic is wacked!
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Why do ya' think I blamed it on mmafiter?
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Well I for one do not do the cyber sex thing, but I think it is a lot like pornography. When you watch a porno and are aroused by it, is that cheating? Is it really that different from cyber sex?
Definetly cheating . Mental and no physical doesn't matter . You're mind is still cheating . Ask yourself this " Would i do this if my girlfriend or boyfriend , wife or husband was around ?" .
If you feel slightly guilty or even have to ask if it's cheating then i think you already know .
If you feel slightly guilty or even have to ask if it's cheating then i think you already know .
I think there is a definite difference between looking at porn and having a cyber relationship. Yes, it is very different there is another person (a real person) involved with you.
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True, but you are still getting aroused by another human who is not your wife, so it that's the case wouldn't porn be considered cheating too?
It's the complete annonymity issue that he's gettin' at Iron. The no 2way action. However, a person could take a picture just as seriously and obsessively as a conversationional relationship, so where would that leave you? Just a thought. But I think it swings both ways. I'll leave the theological side out...for now. hehehe...just when you thought I'd never climb back on my soap box 
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Originally posted by ALBOB
Did I just get slammed?
CRASHMAN I'm gonna have to disagree. You're sole criteria is whether or not you get CAUGHT. By that logic you can do anything under the sun and it's not cheating unless your mate finds out. Sorry, I just can't see that.
yeah i see your point i agree pretty much with you see if i turned the situation around and my girl was doing that with some one on the internet i would be really mad and if was with someone i knew i would concider it cheating and probably break up with her over the stupid thing. It puts the thought in your head like am i not interesting enough, does she not like me anymore, does she not find me attractive, why wouldn't she do it with me, just a bunch of stuff that really mind fuks you and i would have to agree that it's cheating all the way if you get caught or not
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Originally posted by ALBOB
Did I just get slammed?
Sorry ALBOB, please don't feel violated, it was just in jest! No HARD feelings? That's right, blame MMAFITER, he started it!
DP
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Trust W8 to be lurking in the background!!!! Lmao at your little faces!!!
As for this topic....it amazes me that some on this site see it as a black and white subject.....its not!!!! This is a personal opinion and I stand by it....cyber sex is only a written form of pornography....you take out of it what you put into it...if you feel so threatened by it...then dont do it...if you however have a broad enough mind to see it for what it is...then so be it!!!! Its all a matter of personal taste...no one is right or wrong!!!
If your relationship is one where you feel the need to hide the fact that you do it...then your relationship needs some work!!! My hubby often stands behind me and laughs his head off at some of the things I type...even suggests some comments!!!! Ours has never been threatened by what I type or read....again its down to the personal side of things.......
It makes me sad to think that there is soooo many one-eyed comments based on misconceptions!!!!
As for this topic....it amazes me that some on this site see it as a black and white subject.....its not!!!! This is a personal opinion and I stand by it....cyber sex is only a written form of pornography....you take out of it what you put into it...if you feel so threatened by it...then dont do it...if you however have a broad enough mind to see it for what it is...then so be it!!!! Its all a matter of personal taste...no one is right or wrong!!!
If your relationship is one where you feel the need to hide the fact that you do it...then your relationship needs some work!!! My hubby often stands behind me and laughs his head off at some of the things I type...even suggests some comments!!!! Ours has never been threatened by what I type or read....again its down to the personal side of things.......
It makes me sad to think that there is soooo many one-eyed comments based on misconceptions!!!!
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Well, now that you mention it... scoping out porn is cheating.
Not always though... cheating is basically defined as "acting dishonestly" or "to mislead."
So being defined as above, it would be cheating on your mate if you have a little porn fetish and are always checking it out behind her back (and without her knowledge
) because something about your relationship isnt fulfilling enough to satisfy you.
On the other hand, its not cheating if you spouse knows about it and either condones or atleast accepts you making use of porn.
Either way, if when the wife leaves the house you turn the lights off and spank flick on... on a regular basis... I think that you've got a problem.
But if you're the type of couple that likes to get geared up for action by watching a porn for a bit, then its certainly not cheating because your spouse obviously knows about and likes it.
This perception of cheating has nothing to do with religion, but with a simple widely accepted definition.
Eggs
Not always though... cheating is basically defined as "acting dishonestly" or "to mislead."
So being defined as above, it would be cheating on your mate if you have a little porn fetish and are always checking it out behind her back (and without her knowledge
) because something about your relationship isnt fulfilling enough to satisfy you.On the other hand, its not cheating if you spouse knows about it and either condones or atleast accepts you making use of porn.
Either way, if when the wife leaves the house you turn the lights off and spank flick on... on a regular basis... I think that you've got a problem.
But if you're the type of couple that likes to get geared up for action by watching a porn for a bit, then its certainly not cheating because your spouse obviously knows about and likes it.
This perception of cheating has nothing to do with religion, but with a simple widely accepted definition.
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btw, Esmerelda... I'm not knocking anybody whose actions I would consider cheating.
Just saying that if you are, dont try to pussy foot around it and grow some balls and call it what it is (or not for you ladies).
Oh, and if your spouse knows about it... then your not hiding it from him, and certainly not cheating.
Eggs
Disclaimer: This is just my opinion guys... if you dont agree with it, post or just roll your eyes And by all means, spank away.
Just saying that if you are, dont try to pussy foot around it and grow some balls and call it what it is (or not for you ladies).
Oh, and if your spouse knows about it... then your not hiding it from him, and certainly not cheating.
Eggs
Disclaimer: This is just my opinion guys... if you dont agree with it, post or just roll your eyes
And by all means, spank away.
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w8lifter
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This is getting a bit much...porn is cheating now?
