Looking for bro advice

[Crono1000]

So I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and she is absolutely the most amazingly beautiful girl I have ever seen. She is goooooooooooooooooorgous. Way out of my league. She's "never gets a speeding ticket" and "never pays for coffee" hot. Which means, she's an amazingly sexy girlfriend but completely insane.

About 90% of the time she is the best girlfriend there can be. She is completely obsessed with me, adores me and wants nothing but to please me and do sexy stuff with me, which is great, but there's a 10% of her that is certifiably insane. I thought she was bipolar, but I'm pretty sure it's full on Borderline Personality Disorder. She becomes manipulative, I can't do anything right, and gets incredibly angry because of something that she thinks I'm thinking. She can fixate on something she thinks I thought or thinks I did in a past relationship and just suddenly changes her mood within seconds. She gets the whole crazy eyes look, just saying sporadic paranoid nonsense and making me feel like shit. Which is a shame because I've dated girls that are 100% interested in me, but I just wasn't that attracted to them or for some reason their interest in me was a turn off

I know the answer is to close the door on this before it goes too far, but I need some brovice to support walking away from the sexiest girl I have ever seen in my life. Somehow I can't get myself to say, "So long great girl with one major flaw. I'm going to go not have sex for 6 more months now!"

 

[Little Wing]

im not a bro but are we talking green eyed monster? she has a jealous streak? crazy jealous streak?

 

[maniclion]

You've only seen her for a month, maybe she's just testing you...I know I had one girl who was constantly pestering me with "what's wrong or what are you thinking" all the time until I realized she was just totally insecure that I didn't like her as much as she liked me...after a while I knew I didn't like her as much so I broke it off before she got too comfortable with US and was able to lessen the pain of severing her attachment to me.....

 

[bio-chem]

have you tried asking her about what's going on? trying pointing it out while it is happening?

by the way 90% great 10% crazy is not worth walking away from. I would kill for that percentage. literally. i would kill. i would end random human life for a relationship with that percentage of good/crazy.

when you wake up and she is standing over you watching you sleep then you know its time to leave. until then enjoy the ride.

 

[DOMS]

Some advice that I gave my nephew (of 18) the other day regarding women: "All women are crazy. It's how often and how much they express that differs."

My point being, is the way that she acts something you feel that you can live with? Some guys can't stand an assertive women while others like it. You just need to figure out if what she obsesses about is something that is okay with your personality.

Keep in mind that what I've said is without the benefit of the details of what she does.

 

[Crono1000]

im not a bro but are we talking green eyed monster? she has a jealous streak? crazy jealous streak?

Yes, extremely so. She doesn't even like that I have female coworkers. She's always asking about past relationships, and I tell her I don't feel comfortable doing that because frankly I don't want to know her past. But any sliver of info she is able to squeeze out of me suddenly blows up into a huge deal. And as many times as I tell her I don't want to know about her past, she always finds a way to bring it up. If I call her beautiful, "Every guy has told me that." I commented on a mole on her body, "Every guy finds a mole and says its the cutest." But if I don't then I'm being uninterested in her.

Example of the crazy, and someone tell me if this is me and I just don't realize it. We've spent all day texting lovey dovey crap to each other, and she said she wanted to make me her "In a relationship with..." status on facebook. I had already told her I would, but I go, playfully, "I don't knooooooooooow. I wonder what I'll choose?" She took this literally and said I'm playing games and she needs a mature relationship and hangs up.

So did I do something wrong here?

 

[bio-chem]

So did I do something wrong here?

yes, you have facebook.

 

[Crono1000]

by the way 90% great 10% crazy is not worth walking away from. I would kill for that percentage. literally. i would kill. i would end random human life for a relationship with that percentage of good/crazy.

this was a conservative estimate. I'm being extremely generous. Also, her crazy is extreme. And this is coming from somebody who works with schizophrenics for a career

 

[bio-chem]

this was a conservative estimate. I'm being extremely generous.

i've already told you under what circumstances it's ok to leave a woman this hot.

by the way you better pray to God she never sees this thread

 

[maniclion]

Yes, extremely so. She doesn't even like that I have female coworkers. She's always asking about past relationships, and I tell her I don't feel comfortable doing that because frankly I don't want to know her past. But any sliver of info she is able to squeeze out of me suddenly blows up into a huge deal. And as many times as I tell her I don't want to know about her past, she always finds a way to bring it up. If I call her beautiful, "Every guy has told me that." I commented on a mole on her body, "Every guy finds a mole and says its the cutest." But if I don't then I'm being uninterested in her.

Example of the crazy, and someone tell me if this is me and I just don't realize it. We've spent all day texting lovey dovey crap to each other, and she said she wanted to make me her "In a relationship with..." status on facebook. I had already told her I would, but I go, playfully, "I don't knooooooooooow. I wonder what I'll choose?" She took this literally and said I'm playing games and she needs a mature relationship and hangs up.

So did I do something wrong here?

Wow, seems like she is inexperienced with new relationships and she's the one playing games...sounds like for now you gotta take it seriously and not kid about nor bring up anyone but her and your relationship with her. She's going to keep toying with your emotions to see what kind of attachment you've made, right now you either gotta become Dr. Manhattan and move to Mars or just go with the flow until she feels more secure.....

 

[weldingman]

My ex wife was bipolar and she sounds just like your girl, she would fixate on something so small and minute that wasnt really a big deal to a normal person and she wouldnt stop talking about it and it would turn into a big damn argument and then out of no were it was my damn fault and as she got older it got worse . I had to leave I tried everything I could to help her and nothing worked. I had to leave that nightmare.

 

[Crono1000]

Last night I surprised her at her place and took her to a park where we had a candlelit sushi picnic at the lake. She loved it, adored me, I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her, she's so lucky, omg yay me.

The night went great. We then left and with no trigger that I can recall she spent a good hour telling me how I don't show her the kind of affection she wants and maybe we're not meant for each other. I sigh and pseudo-relieved accept the situation. Out of fucking nowhere, and with crazy eyes on high beam, she smiles a genuine friendly smile and asks with an almost childlike voice, "So are you going to be my boyfriend?" I'm fairly certain with the same breath she had just told me how she's not ready to date. I completely agree.

 

[Crono1000]

My ex wife was bipolar and she sounds just like your girl, she would fixate on something so small and minute that wasnt really a big deal to a normal person and she wouldnt stop talking about it and it would turn into a big damn argument and then out of no were it was my damn fault and as she got older it got worse . I had to leave I tried everything I could to help her and nothing worked. I had to leave that nightmare.

ok, this. THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. I couldn't have said it better, this this this this this.

 

[bio-chem]

ok, this. THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. I couldn't have said it better, this this this this this.

zoloft and lithium

 

[SilentBob187]

ok, this. THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. I couldn't have said it better, this this this this this.

ok, run. RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN. I can't say it better, but maybe Lord Humongous can:

YouTube Video

Just walk away. You can put a stop to all of this. Just walk away, and we will spare your lives. Just walk away.

As much as it sucks not having sex. Being around crazy like that can't be any healthier.

 

[Crono1000]

ok, run. RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN. I can't say it better, but maybe Lord Humongous can:

YouTube Video

Just walk away. You can put a stop to all of this. Just walk away, and we will spare your lives. Just walk away.

As much as it sucks not having sex. Being around crazy like that can't be any healthier.

:

 

[maniclion]

But isn't that what women do, nitpick and nag about little shit?

 

[Little Wing]

ok, this. THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. I couldn't have said it better, this this this this this.

it doesn't matter how beautiful a woman is she can still be insanely jealous, deeply insecure have very low self esteem. so yes this and what DOMS said. we all are varying degrees of crazy.

 

[DOMS]

so yes this and what DOMS said. we all are varying degrees of crazy.

Yeah, but you do come with some nice girly parts.

 

[Little Wing]

and it's a good damn thing we do, otherwise guys wouldn't put up with our shit.

 

[DOMS]

and it's a good damn thing we do, otherwise guys wouldn't put up with our shit.

Not entirely true. Men and women are a Yin, Yang sort of a thing.

Men are: logical, but not very sensitive
Women are: sensitive, but not very logical

There are other reasons that physical ones for men and women to be together.

 

[Little Wing]

Not entirely true. Men and women are a Yin, Yang sort of a thing.

Men are: logical, but not very sensitive
Women are: sensitive, but not very logical

There are other reasons that physical ones for men and women to be together.

vanity = logical, but not very sensitive
Little Wing = sensitive, but not very logical

true story. my heart is so busy my head isn't working right now.

 

[Nate K]

Sounds like a stuck up bitch that is used to getting away with anything she wants. People let her mess with them so she remains that way. She gets bored and enjoys games, don't get attached.

Is she this way with everyone? It does not sound like a mood or personality disorder to me...I def. don't think borderline. I have been diagnosed with a rapid cycling bipolar II with some schizophernic characteristics before and read some on disorders, I'm no expert though.

 

[ZECH]

it doesn't matter how beautiful a woman is she can still be insanely jealous, deeply insecure have very low self esteem. so yes this and what DOMS said. we all are varying degrees of crazy.

100% agree.

 

[bio-chem]

I have been diagnosed with a rapid cycling bipolar II with some schizophernic characteristics before and read some on disorders, I'm no expert though.

this explains a lot

jk dude. i've always thought you were cool.

 

[ALBOB]

You're missing the most obvious answer on Earth; be the asshole. I don't know if Little Wing can/will verify this but, us guys seem to notice how women always seem to be infatuated with guys that treat them like shit. Be that guy. If she hangs up on you for something that stupid, let her. Make HER call YOU back and tell her you don't appreciate being hung up on for a simple joke. Then you hand up on her. Make her call you back again. Make her grovel before you take her back. And repeat that maneuver every time she pulls this shit on you.

 

[SYN]

Make her smoke some pot and if that doesn't work khtfo

 

[Little Wing]

You're missing the most obvious answer on Earth; be the asshole. I don't know if Little Wing can/will verify this but, us guys seem to notice how women always seem to be infatuated with guys that treat them like shit. Be that guy. If she hangs up on you for something that stupid, let her. Make HER call YOU back and tell her you don't appreciate being hung up on for a simple joke. Then you hand up on her. Make her call you back again. Make her grovel before you take her back. And repeat that maneuver every time she pulls this shit on you.

if you are an asshole it might work for a while but you won't like what you end up with... a woman who will step on your cok. tides turn.

 

[Curt James]

So I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and she is absolutely the most amazingly beautiful girl I have ever seen. She is goooooooooooooooooorgous. Way out of my league. She's "never gets a speeding ticket" and "never pays for coffee" hot. Which means, she's an amazingly sexy girlfriend but completely insane.

About 90% of the time she is the best girlfriend there can be. She is completely obsessed with me, adores me and wants nothing but to please me and do sexy stuff with me, which is great, but there's a 10% of her that is certifiably insane. I thought she was bipolar, but I'm pretty sure it's full on Borderline Personality Disorder. She becomes manipulative, I can't do anything right, and gets incredibly angry because of something that she thinks I'm thinking. She can fixate on something she thinks I thought or thinks I did in a past relationship and just suddenly changes her mood within seconds. She gets the whole crazy eyes look, just saying sporadic paranoid nonsense and making me feel like shit. Which is a shame because I've dated girls that are 100% interested in me, but I just wasn't that attracted to them or for some reason their interest in me was a turn off

It's all about the pro versus the con. Do the positives outweigh the negatives in this relationship? You decide. Good luck.

 

[maniclion]

vanity = logical, but not very sensitive
Little Wing = sensitive, but not very logical

true story. my heart is so busy my head isn't working right now.

Funny thing, I'm the sensitive more emotional creature and my GF is the more logical less sensitive one, but she knew I was a writer/poet when we met and it works out she keeps my artist mind from floating off too far and I appeal to her feminine need for a more sensitive man....