Miserable

[OTG85]

Ever since I gave up my old life of male go go dancing for this girl my life has been going downhill.I now work a shitty 12 hour job,and struggle from week to week.I use to bring in 800-1200 a week go,go dancing at a huge nightclub.I can't live week to week much longer I'm going self destruct.I'm engaged to marry this girl,but she don't respect my old lifestyle and is not even considering letting me go back.Should I bounce?I just want to escape back into my old life and get lost.What should I do?

 

[REDDOG309]

not even considering letting me go back, WTF....bounce now because in the near future she won't even consider "letting" you stop out for a few beers with your friends.
A lifetime is a long time to be miserable.

 

[OTG85]

Just sucks because all my money goes to child support and bill's.I can't live week to week for much longer.

 

[Retribution]

Happiness is a must bro, I think theres a big difference between go go dancing and going out for a a couple beers with your friends but you never know with women, she may go that far. You can make good money bouncing but from what I've heard not enough to make it your main source of income. Tuff choice. Guess either find a better paying day job or risk losing your woman.

 

[vicious 13]

I'll tell u this bro it won't get better only worse seems like every month my girl is trying to change something else about me

 

[hypo_glycemic]

I went through the same particular thing w/ my wife before we got married. I was a DJ at a busy night club in LA. She couldn't stand the fact that I was in the bar till 2am (sometimes 5am) lol. She always had trust issues before I met her- so that made it hard on me anyway. That being said, I stopped working at the bar and we've been married for 19 years in Aug. One thing we changed is the trust with each other. If both of you don't trust, it's going to end up wrecked! I would sit down with her and get that shit buttoned up quick,or gtfo ..IMO

 

[OTG85]

Yea I really care for and love the girl but at the same time I miss my easy money lifestyle.I was thinking about trying go back to school and earn a degree or trade in something.I just hate my job now and can't even ever imagine trying make a career out of it(framing houses)Not much work out there when you don't have much skill or degree.Life is tuff!!

 

[parsifal09]

this is so upsetting seeing u, an old friend of mine, have to go through this

i dont know what to say

pars

 

[independent]

If its a gay night club I say ditch her now.

 

[NVRBDR]

move forward, not backwards, set your goals a little higher friend. no offense, but male gogo dancing/bouncer is no future. you're woman may not be "the one", however, she is leading you the right way. apply yourself 100% to whatever you do and you will move forward and be successful. I preferred performance based jobs, ie, sales jobs, this way my performance was the deciding factor for my paycheck... best regards

 

[OTG85]

move forward, not backwards, set your goals a little higher friend. no offense, but male gogo dancing/bouncer is no future. you're woman may not be "the one", however, she is leading you the right way. apply yourself 100% to whatever you do and you will move forward and be successful. I preferred performance based jobs, ie, sales jobs, this way my performance was the deciding factor for my paycheck... best regards

Big true I can't live that life forever.The further I keep going down that road the less oprotunity I will have making it in the real world.

 

[maniclion]

Don't do technical sales in a budding industry like Solar electricity...you'll end up being one of few who can answer everyones questions and work way too many hours...

 

[vicious 13]

Join the union metal framing and drywall

 

[OTG85]

Thinking about emt basic and if I like it try become firefighter/emt

 

[JCBourne]

You can come work for me if you've got some business background. PM me if interested.

 

[SloppyJ]

I went through the same particular thing w/ my wife before we got married. I was a DJ at a busy night club in LA. She couldn't stand the fact that I was in the bar till 2am (sometimes 5am) lol. She always had trust issues before I met her- so that made it hard on me anyway. That being said, I stopped working at the bar and we've been married for 19 years in Aug. One thing we changed is the trust with each other. If both of you don't trust, it's going to end up wrecked! I would sit down with her and get that shit buttoned up quick,or gtfo ..IMO

Do you ever feel like you hold any bitterness towards her for her being the reason that you quit something you loved? I was in the same situation in the fact that I met a girl and she kind of changed the way I do things. I was into some pretty stupid stuff and not really doing anything with my life. She basically said it's her or my previous habits. I picked her and quit the bullshit.

Even though that I know I did the right thing and she wanted to change me for the right reasons, sometimes I still feel a little resentment towards her. I guess I thought I was one of those guys who would do whatever the fuck I wanted whenever I wanted. Maybe I'm just upset at myself?

OP, if your woman is that controlling it's a hard call. My girl did it for the right reasons. If you were making great money and there were no reasons to stop other than her own jealousy then I would have to say that you need to find someone who makes you happy. I know how hard that can be. Or just sit down and talk to her about this entire deal.

 

[SFW]

Get super jacked again and continue on your journey. Forget this chick bro, they come and go. Unless youre in love and certain, they are dime a dozen. You need to do what you have to, if she doesnt support your decision, throw her the peace sign.

 

[Watson]

im with SFW

i banged enough gals that its a miracle my donger didnt fall off to say the least, but i got through it clean, id heard lots of tales from friends who had doubts before they got married and what not
but when i met my wife, i never did, i had no doubts and i knew she was all i needed, when she smiled at me while she walked down the isle, never been a happier moment in my life cepting the 2 boys births

the fact ur asking yourself this and u seem miserable........well.......u got to know where im going with this yeah bro?

some guys said gogo dancer aint a life, i say bullshit, what makes u happy is your life, enjoy it, live it, dont let people tell u what u can and cannot do, if this woman cannot handle who u are or what u want to do, then in short she only wants u her way

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

Yea I really care for and love the girl but at the same time I miss my easy money lifestyle.I was thinking about trying go back to school and earn a degree or trade in something.I just hate my job now and can't even ever imagine trying make a career out of it(framing houses)Not much work out there when you don't have much skill or degree.Life is tuff!!

Do you really think going back is going to make you happy?

When is going backwards in life ever bring happiness?

 

[rage racing]

I was in a similar situation. I quit doing what I love (building race cars) and got a "real job". Do I regret my decision....sometimes. But I have a good job making 100k a year and I can support my family without worry. I am not gonna lie. I dont really like what I do for a living but everything in life is a trade off. Good luck to ya brotha.

 

[Little Wing]

is anyone else thinking "male go go dancing??? wtf?" school sounds like a good idea.

 

[Little Wing]

now i can't get living da vida loca out of my head. oy

 

[EARL]

I'm not sure what to make of any of this.

 

[hypo_glycemic]

Do you ever feel like you hold any bitterness towards her for her being the reason that you quit something you loved? I was in the same situation in the fact that I met a girl and she kind of changed the way I do things. I was into some pretty stupid stuff and not really doing anything with my life. She basically said it's her or my previous habits. I picked her and quit the bullshit.

Even though that I know I did the right thing and she wanted to change me for the right reasons, sometimes I still feel a little resentment towards her. I guess I thought I was one of those guys who would do whatever the fuck I wanted whenever I wanted. Maybe I'm just upset at myself?

OP, if your woman is that controlling it's a hard call. My girl did it for the right reasons. If you were making great money and there were no reasons to stop other than her own jealousy then I would have to say that you need to find someone who makes you happy. I know how hard that can be. Or just sit down and talk to her about this entire deal.

Sorry Sloppy I didn't see your reply.

I use to blame her for a lot of the fun and money I was missing out on in the clubs. That being said, there's a lot of BS in the clubs alcohol, rec drugs, chicks, etc.. so I was ready to get a real job and with my degree, I knew my self worth was better than that. Competing in bb'ing is her pet peeve now after 18 years lol.. She cooks my food and supports me as much as she can, but that doesn't mean she necessarily likes it.. After all these years married, I'm glad I made the decision to get married and stop being selfish.

 

[Iron8]

Go go dancing? Can't say I've ever heard of it & i'm afraid to google it but sorry for your troubles.

Better to get out now if you're truly unhappy then for it to end in a divorce or worse a divorce after having kids.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

money doesnt make people happy


seau and whitney houston had a bunch of money...they dead now

 

[theCaptn']

Current job is a deadend. Think about what your strengths a d talents are, and look for an opportunity to make a career out of them.

In the meantime, Go back to the dancing, make the money and put it aside for training or college.

If the girl don't see the big picture for you then she's the wrong girl for you.