Relationship question, am i right? selfish?

[WallsOfJericho]

ok, so im training to be a professional wrestler, i started in 2006, but got an injury, then life took over, ive been back in training for 2 months, my girlfriend has never approved, and come every sunday, it always starts an argument between us, she just cannot and will not accept it, fair enough, so she makes her feelings known every single sunday to me and sometimes that carries on to the middle of the week.

she has been given full time working hours next week, and shes annoyed that it will be over a week until i see her next, the only time she finishes early is this sunday, and she wants me to meet her from work, i told her i have training and she should just come to mine for dinner after, but she wont have any of it, and has said i dont love her, im putting this joke of a hobby infront of her etc, and if i dont meet her after work shel break up with me (weve been together for 3 years), i was like ok, i dont believe it anyway.

am i selfish for going to training? i told her theres always another day and that weve been apart for a week before, its not the end of the world, shes tried to stray me away before, always on sundays, meanwhile shes always going to concerts and i never tell her that she cant because i want her to see me instead, shall i stand up for my principles? i dont want her to guilt me into missing a session.

 

[heckler7]

she's over the relationship, if she loved you she would support your intrests. Hate to say this but most women act like this when they come across another man they are attracted too, then they start to question and downgrade their current boyfreind. As long as you arent a debeat there should be no problems.

 

[WallsOfJericho]

she's over the relationship, if she loved you she would support your intrests. Hate to say this but most women act like this when they come across another man they are attracted too, then they start to question and downgrade their current boyfreind. As long as you arent a debeat there should be no problems.

she says it the other way around, she just said she loves me so much, and i never put her first, and she always accuses me of not being attracted to her, im 100% sure thats not it, she sees it as me giving up on the relationship

 

[Standard Donkey]

ok, so im training to be a professional wrestler, i started in 2006, but got an injury, then life took over, ive been back in training for 2 months, my girlfriend has never approved, and come every sunday, it always starts an argument between us, she just cannot and will not accept it, fair enough, so she makes her feelings known every single sunday to me and sometimes that carries on to the middle of the week.

she has been given full time working hours next week, and shes annoyed that it will be over a week until i see her next, the only time she finishes early is this sunday, and she wants me to meet her from work, i told her i have training and she should just come to mine for dinner after, but she wont have any of it, and has said i dont love her, im putting this joke of a hobby infront of her etc, and if i dont meet her after work shel break up with me (weve been together for 3 years), i was like ok, i dont believe it anyway.

am i selfish for going to training? i told her theres always another day and that weve been apart for a week before, its not the end of the world, shes tried to stray me away before, always on sundays, meanwhile shes always going to concerts and i never tell her that she cant because i want her to see me instead, shall i stand up for my principles? i dont want her to guilt me into missing a session.

well, "professional" wrestling is gay as fuck

with that aside, how much of your time does your gay hobby take up weekly? I can understand how and why she is upset, but giving ultimatums like "meet with me or we are over" is petty and childish. In fact, based on what you have said, she sounds petty and childish in general. Her willingness to break up with you over this before getting counseling suggests to me that she is not serious about your relationship and is fucking someone behind your back.

but relationships are all about compromise, and i can see the need for one coming your way. you just have to decide what means more to you. if you do choose to give up your gay hobby, you should make sure that she is at least as willing to sacrifice something she loves in order to make you happy.

how old are both of you btw?

 

[WallsOfJericho]

well, "professional" wrestling is gay as fuck

with that aside, how much of your time does your gay hobby take up weekly? I can understand how and why she is upset, but giving ultimatums like "meet with me or we are over" is petty and childish. In fact, based on what you have said, she sounds petty and childish in general. Her willingness to break up with you over this before getting counseling suggests to me that she is not serious about your relationship and is fucking someone behind your back.

but relationships are all about compromise, and i can see the need for one coming your way. you just have to decide what means more to you. if you do choose to give up your gay hobby, you should make sure that she is at least as willing to sacrifice something she loves in order to make you happy.

how old are both of you btw?

im not goin to act like i didnt expect a response like that haha, im 26 shes 31, its only 4 hours on a sunday.

 

[heckler7]

she says it the other way around, she just said she loves me so much, and i never put her first, and she always accuses me of not being attracted to her, im 100% sure thats not it, she sees it as me giving up on the relationship

if she loves you that much she sure isnt acting like it. my wife would bring another woman in the bedroom if I asked and she offerred when we were dating. she sounds very young. this relationship wont last just based on her ultimadum. you should drink a couple of monster drinks and fuck the shit out of her, then drop her and find someone who thinks your wrestling is cool

 

[heckler7]

im not goin to act like i didnt expect a response like that haha, im 26 shes 31, its only 4 hours on a sunday.

shit theres your problem right there, shes way older so she thinks shes more mature than you and has more life wisdom. She wants to turn you into the man she thinks she wants then she wont find you atractive anymore. Trust me bro my first wife was a few years older. its a disaster. 31 she wants a family and is gonna blame you that she doesnt have those things. CUT AND RUN!

 

[WallsOfJericho]

shit theres your problem right there, shes way older so she thinks shes more mature than you and has more life wisdom. She wants to turn you into the man she thinks she wants then she wont find you atractive anymore. Trust me bro my first wife was a few years older. its a disaster. 31 she wants a family and is gonna blame you that she doesnt have those things. CUT AND RUN!

we have already been down that road a few times,

 

[heckler7]

we have already been down that road a few times,

trust me bro its the source of all your arguemnts, and if you let her change you she will lose respect for you, because and older man would never let a woman manipulate him. Sorry bro.

 

[Standard Donkey]

if she loves you that much she sure isnt acting like it. my wife would bring another woman in the bedroom if I asked and she offerred when we were dating. she sounds very young. this relationship wont last just based on her ultimadum. you should drink a couple of monster drinks and fuck the shit out of her, then drop her and find someone who thinks your wrestling is cool

i will never understand you barbarians..

Op, she IS in a different state of mind than you are (clearly), she most likely is wanting a family and kids at this point in her life, and you are off playing with sweaty men in your underwear.

She thinks it's time for you to grow up, and she might just be right

 

[jadean]

Bro you said you let her go to concerts and whatever else and hse wont let you have 4 hours a week. Maybe she does want more out of the relationship but she sounds controlling and if you let her have her way all the time then your not the man anymore bro. Who wheres the pants? You do and if she can go out with no problems then you should too. If your serious about wrestling then follow your dreams buddy. I have friends that are wrestlers, some make good money and some dont but most of them have familys that support them. Right now sounds like you dont.

 

[heavyiron]

Rolling around on the floor with men in their underwear is probably turning her off. Either come out of the closet or repress the shit out of your man on man action fantasies.

Btw, you got any nude pics of your girl to post up?

 

[NVRBDR]

lol,

ok, so im training to be a professional wrestler, i started in 2006, but got an injury, then life took over, ive been back in training for 2 months,

if she is hot dump the underwear party on Sunday, if not do whatever you want, let the pieces fall where they may, because before long her wrinkles will be soo bad you probably won't want her anyway and you'll dump her for one that's 22 and hot

 

[heckler7]

you get paid, its your job, regardless what it is, a hobby or career she needs to support you. She's embaressed of what you do, if you wanted to be a fireman and volunteered at the house on weekends to boost your career I bet she would be cool with it. Chicks like their man to have a cool job so they can brag to their friends.

 

[LAM]

I have a bunch of buddies that used to wrestle, I say go for it if it's your thing. there's almost 4B women on the planet you can find another no problem...

 

[squigader]

If it's only 4 hours a week, then she's being ridiculous. Tell her you need your "me time", everybody needs time to do their personal hobbies. Men in particular need alone time.

 

[Retlaw]

Rolling around on the floor with men in their underwear is probably turning her off. Either come out of the closet or repress the shit out of your man on man action fantasies.

Btw, you got any nude pics of your girl to post up?

This ^^^ Bro, we are like family here, we need to see your bitch naked then we can help you make the right move

 

[secdrl]

Bro, you'll never be in the NWO. Stop being a faggot and pay attention to your girl.

 

[secdrl]

Oh...and what's your stage name so I can laugh then neg you.