Heart crushing constant anxiety.

[AKIRA]

My dad is a shrink (though I didnt see him for my anxiety) but Ive always looked into things too much causing anxiety.

My back problem has called anxiety. Thinking of terms "always/never" invokes anxiety big time and since I wanted to put up some larger numbers in my squat and deadlift just a couple of days prior to my injury, I was pretty upset.

Breathing is the best thing you can do for yourself in stressful times. Very rarely, must I pop a xanax to calm myself down, but it has taken 5+ years to accept, treat, and hopefully solve this problem drug free.

 

[Trouble]

"Trouble could you possible elaborate on how adopted childerns behavior differ from normal birth. i would be curious to know because it could shed light on alot of my behavior patterns. I wonder if adopted or abdandon childern during birth would more suspectable to Dna splicing. That be an interesting theory."

HAN, I think that topic would be best discussed in another thread, not this one.

This is Pipboys thread.

 

[JohnMac]

or you could try

growing a pair

 

[hardasnails1973]

growing a pair

YOu talking about growing a pair of balls and him being a man. He is just being human is all some of us respond different under same situations so we should not condemn him for being human

 

[Pipboy]

She told me herself.

 

[Pipboy]

I'm not adopted. I have a sister, and both of my parents are together.

 

[GFR]

She cheated on me.
She cheated on me.
She cheated on me.

She really did it.

I saw that one comming 1000 miles away.

She told me herself.

It is simple now....Dump her and never talk to her again.

 

[MCx2]

I saw that one comming 1000 miles away.

It is simple now....Dump her and never talk to her again.

I went through this myself just a month ago.

Only I dumped her before she had the chance to cheat on me.

 

[Jodi]

There was obviously a lot left out of this thread on your part Pipboy but it's not really our business so that's understandable. However, being so infactuated, addicted and such, that this was bound to happen. Also, I figured there must have been some problems for you to even think she would do it out of revenge. You must have done something before yourself.

You are young! Go live your life now and love will come when you are ready.

 

[Trouble]

"I think it's mostly my imagination going overboard and causing me to lose control over myself. I don't doubt her loyalty to me, but I'm afraid, irrationally, that she'd do something to get back at me for something bad I might have done. It's all nuts. Professional help is probably a good idea."


There is a lot more there than meets the eye. You original statement of trepediation over her departure on this trip suggests a history of problems and that you were expecting some sort of rebound effect.

There is much we don't know, and as Jodi says, we don't need to know.

Get professional counseling, Pip, to help you sort out the causes and also to address the root of your anxiety and other interpersonal issues.

Good luck.

 

[fUnc17]

Looks like you have 2 options. Be sad/depressed/anxious and upset for a LONG time, or take the bull by the horns, DUMP her and MOVE on. where are your friends?

Go out, get trashed, talk to OTHER girls. (something you should have never of stopped).

Your not going to wake up one day and feel all better, it is going to take time, but for god sakes do NOT sulk in your own misery!

YOU are the prize, she cheated the prize and now guess what? SHE LOST IT.

Just like foreman said, saw this 1000 miles away. She cheated on you because you dont give her what she needs, you supplicate, act geniuinely good and do not provide a challenge for her. you are NO FUN to her, your BORING. Girls want to have FUN, and so should you, start TODAY.

There is nothing in this world worth being depressed about. Overcome your inner child and you'll be alrite, you are very immature and you need to fix that.

 

[hardasnails1973]

Sorry to say it but from personal expereince you treat a girl good majority of them will walk allover you and in the end being mr nice guy gets you screwed. I'm learning the hard way being too much of a gentlement makes you seem like a push over and women of today do not appreciate it like women in the 50-70's. The days of chivalary are pretty much extinct. I even got bitched at when I was opening the car door for a girl. She told me I am not helpless you know. Shesh see what i mean. Try being a dick some times instead of mr nice guy because it does work. I have the 5 minute rule on the phone when was meeting a girl. Every time that I spend more then 5 minutes on the phone the less likely they where to call back. I give them my number and they usual call me and say hi and whats up and ask if they want to get together for coffe and tell them I have to go. Less information a girl has you the more of a mystery you become and more they desire you. You show them all the goods up front and they have nothing more to look forward to.

 

[Trouble]

Why would you treat someone in whom you have potential interest with little or no respect?

How does that get you 'ahead'? Do they not deserve respect and kindness? Do you not expect to receive treatment in kind from them?

Had I treated you as you advocate treating women (although the circumstances are different), you would have received very little help beyond a cursory reply.

I agree its probably not a good idea to be garrulous when first meeting a woman on the phone. OTOH, whether or not she thanks you for polite gestures, such as holding a door open for her, the pleasure you derive is in the doing of such deeds, not in the expected reward (or the lack of it).

Try to cultivate a perspective of giving for the positive benefit that you derive from these actions. Try hard not to judge others based on casual response on their part. If someone says, politely or not, no thanks, I don't need your help, don't take offense, don't offer to help again in that way again - but also do not withdraw your respect for them. Sooner or later, you will find someone who returns respectful gestures and is pleasant to be with as a companion.

I do not understand either position: when the man feels that good men finish last and when a woman feels that a tolerant and kind natured man is somehow deficit.

 

[GFR]

Sorry to say it but from personal expereince you treat a girl good majority of them will walk allover you and in the end being mr nice guy gets you screwed. I'm learning the hard way being too much of a gentlement makes you seem like a push over and women of today do not appreciate it like women in the 50-70's. The days of chivalary are pretty much extinct. I even got bitched at when I was opening the car door for a girl. She told me I am not helpless you know. Shesh see what i mean. Try being a dick some times instead of mr nice guy because it does work. I have the 5 minute rule on the phone when was meeting a girl. Every time that I spend more then 5 minutes on the phone the less likely they where to call back. I give them my number and they usual call me and say hi and whats up and ask if they want to get together for coffe and tell them I have to go. Less information a girl has you the more of a mystery you become and more they desire you. You show them all the goods up front and they have nothing more to look forward to.

95% true, humans are odd.

 

[boilermaker]

Pip, you are a kid. I'll give you two bits of advice.

1) Don't consider taking her back. If she was a whore once, she will always be a whore.

2) Shake it off. It happens. Move on. Be a man. Better yourself. It will probablly happen again. Most women are deceptive.

 

[Little Wing]

I disagree 100%, love is not about having anxiety attacks when your lover is gone a week or two. Love is about friendship, trust, a partnership and respect. This sounds more like a unhealthy addiction or insecurity issues.

Other than that I find your post to me condescending and uncalled for.

true story.