Anyone tried swinging?

[exphys88]

So, I've been married for 6 years, been with my wife for 12. We've been discussing swinging and we're both slightly interested, or at least interested in entertaining the idea.

Our sex life is amazing in every way, especially since I've been on aas. Both of us have always had an above average libido, and we're both very comfortable in our abilities.

Our marriage couldn't be better, we've been together since the moment we met (we were on ecstacy), and it has only gotten better over the years. So, we feel comfortable in trying something new out. We don't have any jealousy issues either. In fact, we have both discussed in detail most of our past sexual experiences with other partners.

Just wanted to know if any of you guys or girls have tried it out.

• Was it worth it?
• Did it create any problems?
• Would you do it again?

Also, I've been with a couple before. No, I'm not gay. I was chosen by the wife to fulfill her fantasy of having 2 guys. It was a pretty good experience.

 

[LightBearer]

havnt tried it but it could be dangerous, she might freak afterwords or something it could ruin your relationship

 

[brianwhitskey24]

havnt tried it but it could be dangerous, she might freak afterwords or something it could ruin your relationship

rightly said, it may really create a problem in your 12 years of long relationship. enjoy and experience new things in your sexual and love life, you dont wanna include a third person to make your love life more successful,

 

[exphys88]

We've actually only discussed swinging with another couple. But, of course we want to be sure that there are no jealousy issues. So far, it seems like we are both pretty open to it.
I'd like to think that we're mature enough to handle it. She has said that she could be turned on by seeing me pleasured by another woman. And, most women don't admit it or realize it, but have fantasized about having two guys.
Thanks for the input.

 

[Rockstarz]

Word of advise....don't do it. It almost crippled a friend's marriage. She did it because her husband thought it might be fun, etc. She was actually pretty curious too. As it turned out (she got very specific about what happened) she couldn't get him off the other girl. Said the jealousy went straight through the roof. Thought it might be fun until she realized he was swapping spit with the other girl in a way she had never experienced with her husband...needless to say the inner fire starting raging (and I'm not talking about the fire in her panties). Short of the story is he was "way" too involved with the other chick.

Dangerous road to go down (with a wife)...it's all fun and games until the shit hits the fan. She's still having issues with it today (and that was 6 yrs ago). And yes, they're still married.

 

[exphys88]

Word of advise....don't do it. It almost crippled a friend's marriage. She did it because her husband thought it might be fun, etc. She was actually pretty curious too. As it turned out (she got very specific about what happened) she couldn't get him off the other girl. Said the jealousy went straight through the roof. Thought it might be fun until she realized he was swapping spit with the other girl in a way she had never experienced with her husband...needless to say the inner fire starting raging (and I'm not talking about the fire in her panties). Short of the story is he was "way" too involved with the other chick.

Dangerous road to go down (with a wife)...it's all fun and games until the shit hits the fan. She's still having issues with it today (and that was 6 yrs ago). And yes, they're still married.

I appreciate this info, thanks. I can see how a threesome can cause problems. But, I still wonder about 2 couples though. It seems that it may not cause the jealousy as a threesome would.

 

[caaraa]

It almost crippled a friend's marriage.

 

[Imosted]

me and my wife had an experience with another couple, it was fun, and we had certain limitations, like no anal, no kissing bla bla.

how it happened was we always talked about it but never tried it hard enough.
one weekend we went to this rave and we were both on 3 hits of e and i had an 8 ball, and so on...
would i do it again prefer to have a single female(more fun)
it didn't cause any problems, we sometimes talk about it and laugh...

 

[exphys88]

me and my wife had an experience with another couple, it was fun, and we had certain limitations, like no anal, no kissing bla bla.

how it happened was we always talked about it but never tried it hard enough.
one weekend we went to this rave and we were both on 3 hits of e and i had an 8 ball, and so on...
would i do it again prefer to have a single female(more fun)
it didn't cause any problems, we sometimes talk about it and laugh...

Thanks. The wife and I are pretty open and comfortable in our relationship and our sexual satisfaction. Obviously you guys must be too. Were still in the discussion phase though, but we are both intrigued by the idea.
I find it interesting that you had a no kissing rule. What kind of acts did you guys do?

 

[styles]

My advice dont do it dude, find other ways to spice things up but if you go that route it def can ruin a marriage im sure, and is it worh it? If the answer is yes then you probably shouldnt be married anymore anyway.

 

[meow]

My advice dont do it dude, find other ways to spice things up but if you go that route it def can ruin a marriage im sure, and is it worh it? If the answer is yes then you probably shouldnt be married anymore anyway.

Repped. Without thinking about your dick, how would YOU really feel if someone was boning your wife, bare backing it, right in front of you. And now imagine that u can clearly see that she is enjoying herself immensely and is begging for more.
If you can live with this, you probably married the wrong gal anyway. Don't do it bro.

 

[devindra]

Word of advise....don't do it. It almost crippled a friend's marriage. She did it because her husband thought it might be fun, etc. She was actually pretty curious too. As it turned out (she got very specific about what happened) she couldn't get him off the other girl. Said the jealousy went straight through the roof. Thought it might be fun until she realized he was swapping spit with the other girl in a way she had never experienced with her husband...needless to say the inner fire starting raging (and I'm not talking about the fire in her panties). Short of the story is he was "way" too involved with the other chick.

Dangerous road to go down (with a wife)...it's all fun and games until the shit hits the fan. She's still having issues with it today (and that was 6 yrs ago). And yes, they're still married.

this. good post.

 

[MDR]

I did a few years back, but it was as a single guy. Got to know a couple who was involved, and they introduced me to the whole deal. Lot of very hot women, and the experience was a lot of fun. The no-kissing deal is pretty common, but anal is good as long as the woman enjoys it. Went to an on-site swing club for about a year and many private parties. A lot of women enjoy the attention of multiple men, (and vice-versa, of course!) I wouldn't enjoy it now (being married), but a lot of couples seem to be able to get past that just fine. If you are curious, just make sure you understand that if she is attractive, she will get a lot of attention.

 

[mario_ps2]

Man, In all honestly you are completely fucked up.. How can you share your wife with another man. If you guys think this way, you shouldn't be married and I don't believe your marriage is true love.

 

[exphys88]

Man, In all honestly you are completely fucked up.. How can you share your wife with another man. If you guys think this way, you shouldn't be married and I don't believe your marriage is true love.

That's kind of narrow minded, don't you think? From an evolutionary standpoint, multiple partners make sense.

And, I would bet that most married men out there could sleep w another woman and still be completely in love w their wife. Logic says that women probably can too. I try to be open minded w sexuality and don't buy into the religious doctrine that every person should be monogamous, it just doesn't work for everyone.

With that being said, over the years that we've discussed our sexuality and swinging, we always come back to the decision that it's probably a risk that we aren't prepared to take. Mostly because we are madly in love and our sex life is amazing. And, because neither of us can positively say that we'd be ok watching the other person w another partner. This is why I'm asking for some feedback.

So, you're wrong in the assumption that I don't love my wife because I would consider swinging w her. In fact, I think the fact that I'm open minded sexually and make it my duty to fulfill any fantasy she has, makes me a great lover to her.

Don't impose your morality on me, and don't make assumptions on someones marriage based on preconceived notions about sexuality and morality. It's not always black and white.

 

[GMO]

I just couldn't let another man screw my wife. I'd have to beat his face in afterward...

 

[ryisfly]

I do think that we aren't naturally monogamous creatures but you are only inviting trouble with this.

Best to fight the urge haha

 

[big60235]

That's kind of narrow minded, don't you think? From an evolutionary standpoint, multiple partners make sense.

And, I would bet that most married men out there could sleep w another woman and still be completely in love w their wife. Logic says that women probably can too. I try to be open minded w sexuality and don't buy into the religious doctrine that every person should be monogamous, it just doesn't work for everyone.- this is true for men because we can have sex and walk away with no emotional attachment. Most women have to be emotionally attached in some way during sex. This is where the jealsouy comes in and she might be absolutely okay with the situation until your ball deep in some other chick, even if you are okay with your wife being drilled by someone else.

With that being said, over the years that we've discussed our sexuality and swinging, we always come back to the decision that it's probably a risk that we aren't prepared to take. Mostly because we are madly in love and our sex life is amazing. And, because neither of us can positively say that we'd be ok watching the other person w another partner. This is why I'm asking for some feedback.- my wife and I are very much the same, we talk about everything. But I have always said that the risk of this type experience is not worth 50% of my stuff

So, you're wrong in the assumption that I don't love my wife because I would consider swinging w her. In fact, I think the fact that I'm open minded sexually and make it my duty to fulfill any fantasy she has, makes me a great lover to her. Correct again but it comes back to the Risk vs. Reward, that is a question only you can answer.

Don't impose your morality on me, and don't make assumptions on someones marriage based on preconceived notions about sexuality and morality. It's not always black and white.

I do know a couple that thought they would be cool with it and a 15 year marriage was over about 3 months after. Jealousy is a sneaky beast and once that train starts it hard to stop.

I did some swinging with a gf when I was about 22 years old. It was fine but she was a stripper and we were both whores. I knew what I had and she wasn't wife'n up material. Good part there was either one of us could walk away no feelings hurt at anytime.

 

[exphys88]

I do know a couple that thought they would be cool with it and a 15 year marriage was over about 3 months after. Jealousy is a sneaky beast and once that train starts it hard to stop.

I did some swinging with a gf when I was about 22 years old. It was fine but she was a stripper and we were both whores. I knew what I had and she wasn't wife'n up material. Good part there was either one of us could walk away no feelings hurt at anytime.

Thanks for the response. I totally agree about having to weigh the risks vs the rewards. There seems to be a lot of risk when people start sharing stories about failed marriages though. and that's not a risk were willing to take right now. I used to think that i was more open to it, but after many discussions, I think I may not be.

 

[exphys88]

I just couldn't let another man screw my wife. I'd have to beat his face in afterward...

Well, I'm not sure I can either.

 

[Rednack]

Well, I'm not sure I can either.

With your luck some dude will pull out a monster cock and long dick shit out of her and she'll be hollering his name everytime you try to fuck her..

 

[exphys88]

With your luck some dude will pull out a monster cock and long dick shit out of her and she'll be hollering his name everytime you try to fuck her..

Lol! Luckily I'm great in the sack, my dick is big enough, and I don't have to worry bout being intimidated by someone else. If I wasn't comfortable in my skills, I wouldn't even be able to think about trying it.

 

[Rednack]

Lol! Luckily I'm great in the sack, my dick is big enough, and I don't have to worry bout being intimidated by someone else. If I wasn't comfortable in my skills, I wouldn't even be able to think about trying it.

Call me old fashion...but if you two were truely content sexually with each other, you would'nt even think about outside help for your relationship..

 

[exphys88]

Call me old fashion...but if you two were truely content sexually with each other, you would'nt even think about outside help for your relationship..

This is completely narrow minded. Most guys that are happily married still check girls out and imagine fuckin them. But, they are still completely satisfied in their marriage too.

My wife and i use toys in bed, but not because we need something else, it just spices it up a bit.

 

[big60235]

Well, I'm not sure I can either.

BTW- that is how you know your in love. I am not jealous at all but if I saw some guy screwing my wife.... I would walkout of the room..... After cut off his dick and shoved it up his nose; because noses one fucks my wife. Then I would walk out of the room wearing his skull as a helmet.
Risk- loosing all my shit and a lifetime jail sentence.
Reward- a skull helmet and literally be able to call a guy a dick face.

Ps- I may be a sick bastard; Okay it's for sure but that's why a 10 married me.

 

[exphys88]

BTW- that is how you know your in love. I am not jealous at all but if I saw some guy screwing my wife.... I would walkout of the room..... After cut off his dick and shoved it up his nose; because noses one fucks my wife. Then I would walk out of the room wearing his skull as a helmet.
Risk- loosing all my shit and a lifetime jail sentence.
Reward- a skull helmet and literally be able to call a guy a dick face.

Ps- I may be a sick bastard; Okay it's for sure but that's why a 10 married me.

There is absolutely no doubt that we're in love. We've been together since the moment we met and have had zero problems in 12 years.

Exploring sexuality w my wife doesn't infer that were not in love. I'm not arguing for swinging either, just looking for some feedback from people w experience w it.

 

[big60235]

There is absolutely no doubt that we're in love. We've been together since the moment we met and have had zero problems in 12 years.

Exploring sexuality w my wife doesn't infer that were not in love. I'm not arguing for swinging either, just looking for some feedback from people w experience w it.

Wasn't doughting your love for each other. I'm just saying it's not for me with my wife; the stripper I dated and didn't care about... WTF I was in to it balls deep.

What you as a couple end up choosing is between you two. Just never worth the risk after I got married.

 

[Imosted]

Thanks. The wife and I are pretty open and comfortable in our relationship and our sexual satisfaction. Obviously you guys must be too. Were still in the discussion phase though, but we are both intrigued by the idea.
I find it interesting that you had a no kissing rule. What kind of acts did you guys do?

Hey sorry i forgot about this thread,
for the answer almost everything,

for the others, everyone is different, People are not monogamous creatures, the only reason we are trying is because of THE STUPID JUDEO-CHRISTION RELIGIONS, IT IS NOT IN OUR NATURE....

Sex is a big part of my life and i enjoy it, people call me freak because i am also into pain, domination, role playing and so on, i have whips, sex swings, hand cuffs, a bunch other stuff.

exphysiologist my only advise is take it slow, and make sure the couple you going to have a 4 some have a good chemistry, my experience was great, for some reason i had a great connection with the guy and girl----it might be drugs lol--- but while my wife(then gf) was at the shower with his gf i chatted with the guy for 20-30 minutes...explained our situation told them our rules and so on...
There is always risks but as long as you and wife have great connection everything will work out..
Make sure not to force it,don't try to hard. let it happen

 

[exphys88]

Hey sorry i forgot about this thread,
for the answer almost everything,

for the others, everyone is different, People are not monogamous creatures, the only reason we are trying is because of THE STUPID JUDEO-CHRISTION RELIGIONS, IT IS NOT IN OUR NATURE....

Sex is a big part of my life and i enjoy it, people call me freak because i am also into pain, domination, role playing and so on, i have whips, sex swings, hand cuffs, a bunch other stuff.

exphysiologist my only advise is take it slow, and make sure the couple you going to have a 4 some have a good chemistry, my experience was great, for some reason i had a great connection with the guy and girl----it might be drugs lol--- but while my wife(then gf) was at the shower with his gf i chatted with the guy for 20-30 minutes...explained our situation told them our rules and so on...
There is always risks but as long as you and wife have great connection everything will work out..
Make sure not to force it,don't try to hard. let it happen

thanks for your input! It's an ongoing discussion w my wife and I, but at this point neither of us can say for sure that we'd be able to do it w/o jealousy issues. Until we can both say for sure that we can handle it, it's too big of a risk for us, but maybe someday...

 

[SloppyJ]

I get pissed when me and the GF walk down the street and some drunk ass says something about her boobs. I couldn't imagine letting another dude fuck her, even if I was fucking his wife/gf. It's kinda weird. But very interesting to say the least.

There is a party at a certain hotel bar once a month here and it's a swinger party. If I was single, i'd go. My buddy said that you had to bring a girl with you. But some how he got in and got a BJ from some rando.