Voltimus said:
John H.
It seems to me, from the few threads I've read with your input. That you fell you need to push tolerance and acceptance on those that are not seeking life lessons. If you need to constantly rationalize to yourself and others that tolerance and acceptance are natural states/virtues that the human condition should be completely at ease with then I think you need to pick up your attendance in Psychology 101. Stereotypes are natural, they're the tool the human mind uses to make quick categorizations of the threats that they may encounter. You're way off base in your assessments of religion as condoning particular forms of sexuality. Just because a certain doctrine of religion doesn't, in your view, discount the "rightness" of your decision. It doesn't condone it either. The Bible is what it is, a guide to show people how they should treat others, and how to worship a particular God. I don't believe you are a subscriber to a Christian side of religion, so, what consequence is it to you? Your reading of Italy's gay percentage is not relevant, we have documented high percentages of gay people in many areas of America....they're called prisons. In the end, what it seems to boil down to is...You believe that those who don't hold your view are somehow against it. that's incorrect, I don't believe in being gay because I don't believe I'd like the sensation of a penis in my a$$. That's what being gay pretty much boils down to, you like something that someone else doesn't. Unfortunately for you, most of the population doesn't like it either. And until the day when popular opinion sways to embrace homosexuals, you will be ostracized by a few people who think you're nuts. It's your choice, you take the good with the bad. The good being that warm fuzzy you get while having sex with a man, the bad being the browbeatings you take for having sex with a man.
Finally, I don't personally care what you are, it's your choice (or nature's) choice that has made you what you are. But, there's no reason for you to point out "variety" and "nature" and the joining of 2 consenting adults in a broke-dick attempt to rationalize (covertly) what society has deemed "deviant behavior"
You don't need to....
P.S. I still don't think "fisting" is a good idea, either.
Hi Voltimus,
Please re-read what I have said. And I have NEVER said that I - I - have done fisting myself or had it done to me. I have only stated that I have seen it done by others and watched closely - as a way of UNDERSTAND "the why" of it all and I CAN UNDERSTAND how someone WHO CARES ABOUT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING WHO IS OF AGE AND ABILITY OF CONSENT AND GIVES THAT CONSENT FREELY could engage in this variation of LOVING another THEY TRULY CARE ABOUT. Each person makes their own decisions that they are or can become confortable with.
Much of what we know we HAVE LEARNED or HEARD FROM others NOT something that is "inheritant". There are many forms and avenues of learning. Anyone that does his best in this regard will consider ALL information from ALL sources ALL the time and OBJECTIVELY. Because they HOPEFULLY are seeking HONEST TRUTH ACURATELY and never just letting others "just shove" something down their throats - INCLUDING BUT NOT LIMITED TO RELIGION.
If you - MEANING YOU - are NOT seeking "life lessons" that is entirely up to you as an individual. People have - as one form - learned from others but they also learn from other ways too. "Life lessons" are NOT always the best way to learn although they can be especially if someone wants to see what others have experienced in their lives and how it "turned out" for them... You could liken that to someone wanting to find out what it is like to get burned so they THEMSELVES stick their hands into a hot oven - and get burned - OR - they could ask someone that it happened to and what the result was. I would prefer to ask and not find out for myself as I have the capability to UNDERSTAND what it must be like to do something like that and know the end result WITHOUT FINDING OUT MYSELF. Another form of learning or knowing "life lessons" IS TO DISCUSS FREELY and AS A MATURE ADULT or one wanting to become one TO DISCUSS - ANYTHING. "Figure it all out" form of learning... If we LIMIT what we learn than we LIMIT ourselves. We put ourselves into a "personal prison" which IS what many "religious-types" do - they are terrified somehow by the thought of "straying in any manner" INCLUDING the GOD-GIVEN right to QUESTION ALL THINGS. Being narrow-minded is a danger to each individual that subscribes to that conduct. And to others. "Stereotypes" can be and are learned as well. Very much so.
The Bible, it is just ONE form/book for ONE "religion". Not all "religions" subscribe to what it has to say. Or accept it at all. The Bible is the work of HUMAN BEINGS - MEN - at least 40 each with their own viewpoint. It IS a collection of literature - essays, prose, poems, etc. OF ONE "RELIGION". "Religion" is MAN-MADE also. Completely so. What one "religion" "believes" does not mean that another will "believe" the same thing. And they very often do not agree on much which is why there are so many "religions". Religion is nothing more than glorified politics. And as with Men they ARE VERY POLITICAL. Which is why I have not much use for them at all especially based on their past and even present practices. I DO believe in God, a "Higher Being", etc. or whatever you wish to call Him. It is "religion" I do not have much use for BASED ON THEIR CONDUCT and how they often treat others and most often for their own existance, their power over others, and the collecting of wealth to perpetuate themselves and the brainwashing they DO.
What you are saying is that "christians" consider the Bible as their only need and source. I am saying that I do NOT JUST CONSIDER ONE SOURCE FOR ANYTHING INCLUDING THE BIBLE. I CONSIDER ALL INFORMATION FROM ALL SOURCES OBJECTIVELY. The Bible certainly HAS ITS FLAWS being written BY MEN. It is a HUMAN CREATION just as with any other book. I can say this BECAUSE IT IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE. Look at the contradictions within the Bible itself. Look at some of what the Bible - as a "religious article" - condones or perpetuates. It is NOT ALL "good" to be sure.
I read one book that discusses what HAPPENED in a FREE SOCIETY - NOT PRISON - in Italy and is documented (FORBIDDEN FRIENDSHIPS, by Michael Rocke, Published by Oxford University Press). So I can certainly ask then after reading this one book "if this happened here in Italy" it CERTAINLY MUST HAVE HAPPENED elsewhere in the world. And "how is it that so MANY MEN found it 'so right' - INCLUDING those Men who set themselves up to prosecute those they "caught"? How is it that even some of those that were out to get those "sinners" were THEMSELVES involved with other Men Sexually? And found it just fine. And you have to ask yourself what happened BEFORE the "invention of religion" because this world is MILLIONS of years old at the very least. Surely these actions must have gone on all over the world prior to the "invention of religion". And were successful. And found very acceptable. They are natural variations just as with anything else in life.
Another example of what has happened is documented in at least two books: GUARDIANS OF THE FLUTES: IDIOMS OF MASCULINITY, by Gilbert Herdt (McGraw-Hill Book Co.) and RITUALIZED HOMOSEXUALITY IN MELANESIA, edited by Gilbert Herdt, Published by University of California Press). In these books it documents Sexual behavior among Men in Melanesia and surrounding areas and their becoming Men and how they achieve Manhood. One of the things they do is to live with other Men totally void of any Women until they reach a certain age usually around 25 years old or so. And one of the ways they feel they become Men is by injesting the semen of other Men who are adults because that is how Manhood is transferred from one Man to another Man. This has been going on for a very long time and has apparently been very successful for them. And the Men do naturally go to Women later in life and/or stay with Men according to their natural feelings.
You are stereotyping and being bigoted and even narrow-minded in your own statement when you speak of "...being gay... (and) ..the sensation of a penis up (an) a$$..." as "...what being gay pretty much boils down to..." which COULD NOT BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH anymore than being Heterosexual ONLY involves one Man and one Woman fucking and doing nothing more. There is CARE AND LOVE involved and the ONE sexual act you mention is NOT the WHOLE of the experience for anyone Heterosexual, BiSexual or Homosexual.
"Society", PEOPLE have LEARNED AND BEEN TAUGHT that Homosexuality, for example, "is wrong" when in fact that is not the case at all and it IS COMPLETELY NATURAL just as any other form of Sexuality. The FACTS are so. There IS variation in ALL things in life INCLUDING SEXUALITY. NATURALLY SO. INTENDED SO. That you - or "most" - have "learned" is NOT what IS FACT but what has been forced on you "to believe" but is NOT BASED ON THE FACTS.
Take Care, John H.