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Gay Marriage...i don't get it

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i think gay people should be allowed to marry, and I think in 20-30 years I'll be telling my son/daughter about how when I was young being "gay" was a bad thing and that they couldn't even marry- like how my parents may tell me women couldn't vote or black men couldn't drink from the same fountain
 
maniclion said:
Actually Marriage is covered in Genesis well before Jesus shows up. The Old Testament is influential to Jews, Christians and Muslims.


Not going to bet my next paycheck on this subject, I'm DEFINITELY no theological expert...........BUT, even thought spiritual "bonding" is indeed covered in Genesis, the actual institution of marriage was invented by the Roman Catholics...............................I think. :p

Legal disclaimer: I offer no proof of my above statement. I could be completely wrong and if it's proven so I will freely admit my mistake. I'm only voicing what I'm PRETTY SURE I've seen in the past. "In the past" being the operative phrase here. My old brain cells aren't what they used to be. :D
 
Rich46yo said:
The financial costs of legal gay marriage would be enormous. Imagine hundreds of thousands of them rushing to get married for the convenience of getting one partner under an insurance plan, a pension payout, other benefits. Imagine the scams resulting from such actions. Next they will want to adopt kids.

Actually, the federal government would MAKE money if same-sex marriage was approved. As for convenience. . .where is the public outcry over Britney's overnight marriage, all the marriages for a green card, for economic convenience? Most states neither interfere nor regulate the choices of a lifelong spouse, nor do they force or require divorce even when a crime is committed between spouses. Imagine the millions of scams we've already had to pay for because of the abuse of heterosexual marriages? Ah..or the husbands and wives who divorce or who are widowed, but end up shacking up with someone else instead of remarrying in order to fleece more alimony, child support, pensions and social security.

I'm way against this marriage thing.I believe it to be a perversion of a sacred institution and further evidence of a people with declining moral standards. But I also believe it should be up to individual states to vote on. America was always supposed to be a country where states had much of the power. The mushhead state I live in would probably vote for it. So be it, the people speak. Even the mushheads.

The only thing that has been a perversion of the sacred institution is the inability of those who are married to honor their vows before God, the State, and each other. The decline in moral standards isn't in the existence of love between two people, which has existed over human history - it's in the behavior of those who never viewed their marriages as sacred to begin with.
I don't believe people should "vote" on this issue at all - it goes against every democratic tradition of human rights in this nation. Human relationships, when they have done no material damage to the State and are conducted in a committed, monogamous manner that encourages social stability, have always been protected as something sanctimonious ABOVE the authority of any government or public intervention. That's why, for example, a wife is not required to testify in court against a husband, even if 99% of the rest of the population believes her testimony could help the rest of the public. To suddenly determine that private relationships should be voted on by the public invites public intervention in every aspect of anyone's life, including legally sanctioned marriages. When the public codifies that privilege into a Constitution, you open the door for the Family Research Council to intervene with a brief before the Court if you ever filed for divorce, claiming that you are undermining the sanctity of marriage by reneging on your sacred vows.

I have nothing against gays and I have known an awful lot of them. If anything they are probably more hardworking,educated,decent, and involved in the community then the general population. But gay marriage? Now way!......take care.....................Rich

If they are such hardworking, educated, decent, involved members of the community, then why would they NOT ask for some kind of basic legal protections in their life relationships? Should their reward for being such good citizens be the continued exhumation of their bodies from graves against the deceased's wishes, because some minister across town is fearful having two partners buried together might cause society to burn in the fiery furnace?
I think if I was in their position, I'd be mounting a massive tax revolt. Why should they support community ambulance services if they aren't allowed to ride in the damned rescue vehicle? Why should they be making contributions to hospital support services if they can't make health decisions or have visitation rights? And why should they even think of paying state income and property taxes if the State, when there is an absence of any living "recognized" relative, can steal their estates and throw the partner out into the street when the other one dies?
That's the worst part about constitutional amendments - you pass those and then not even the smallest alteration can be made in existing marriage laws to address those grievances. And eventually, that unreasonable reaction will most likely really destroy state marriage, since the likely action should be that unmarried people attack those laws as discriminatory.

Besides, someone interested in the sacred bond of marriage shouldn't need exclusive access to a few hundred special privileges. Those aren't supposed to be the reason for anyone to get married.
 
Pepper said:
Marriage..one man, one woman...period. if it takes an ammendment to guarantee that, so be it.

If you don't ammend the consitituion the PC folks will attack every state house and many, many of them will cave. The next thing you know, I will have to pay for health insurance for a homosexual employee to cover his "wife." Ain't happening.

Of course, that expense is much more worrisome than forcing them to take taxpayer's money in the form of public aid.

But then, if you want a constitutional amendment that effectively turns them into refugees from political and religious persecution (after all, there are several thousand legally married same-sex couples now in Massachusetts), why allow those taxpayers access to other public services?

I always wonder what the rest of you who are married would do if the federal government suddenly knocked on YOUR door and told you YOUR marriage was no longer recognized. Religious "conservatives" could pride themselves on establishing the first group of fellow citizens who may have to seek political asylum elsewhere. All to preserve the insecure "sanctity" of their own personal relationships.
 
ALBOB said:
Not going to bet my next paycheck on this subject, I'm DEFINITELY no theological expert...........BUT, even thought spiritual "bonding" is indeed covered in Genesis, the actual institution of marriage was invented by the Roman Catholics...............................I think. :p

Legal disclaimer: I offer no proof of my above statement. I could be completely wrong and if it's proven so I will freely admit my mistake. I'm only voicing what I'm PRETTY SURE I've seen in the past. "In the past" being the operative phrase here. My old brain cells aren't what they used to be. :D

Government became involved with marriage again several centuries ago because churches, known for their penchant for persecution and petty warfare, refused to keep accurate records of land, population, births and deaths. The records became so unreliable that governments took control of the institution in order to maintain a good count of the population and land holdings and to ensure proper inheritance rights for families. Unfortunately, marriage became less sanctimonious when the churchs performing them started constructing barriers based on special belief systems that often excluded people. But then, marriage wasn't about love back then, either - it was about property transfer.
 
Pepper said:
So you think the Pres can just do it?

The process involves representatives from EVERY state and requires a super-majority. That IS the people deciding.

the next think you're going to tell me is that the people (popular vote) elects the president.
 
Luke9583 said:
I somewhat agree, but feel the divorce rate does just as much, if not more, to demean the sanctity of marriage.

cannot argue that.
 
I am so not getting into this! hells no.. dammit Flex, as J'Bo would call it, your a shit disturber! ha ha.. j/p buddy :p
 
I am hetro.
I love the body of a woman ... the tastes, curves, smells, and sounds of a woman as she gets off is one of her best gifts to man ... that said here is my rant.

If I want to spend my life with somebody, share our fortunes, enjoy mutually shared insurance benefits, have a natural transition of assets after death, and allow my soul mate to use my other earned and paid for benefits after I am dead than that is my right as an American.

The ban on currant same sex union as well as all other laws in our country are based in our religious beliefs. Our religious beliefs dictate our morals and our morals tell us that same sex relations are wrong ... therefore these unions are illegal. Remove the religion and the basis for this ban crumbles. In America two consenting adults should not be denied their right to make these decisions based on someone else???s thoughts on morality.

The laws of this country exist to protect its citizens. In a same sex union there would be no victims, no hazards, no medical issues, no side effects to the persons involved or anyone else for that matter. If there is no need for protection then the law can only be for religious reasons. The executive branch is constitutionally proscribed from establishing laws based in religious origin.

Rich46yo said:
The financial costs of legal gay marriage would be enormous. Imagine hundreds of thousands of them rushing to get married for the convenience of getting one partner under an insurance plan, a pension payout, other benefits. Imagine the scams resulting from such actions. Next they will want to adopt kids.
:haha: Another monotonous erroneous idiotic Richism :crazy:

Imagine hundreds of thousands of them rushing to get married
:laugh: :funny::welldone:

As far as scams go, they are there and always will be. There is no reasonable basis in fact for them to increase or decrease with the legalization of same sex unions.

Someone post a fincancial downside not already being experienced and I'l start being nice to Rich. Maybe. If it is really really good.

It costs money to throw a good wedding. The bridal industry would make millions from affluent gay weddings with all the anal retentive obsessing on colors and fabrics. The churches and town halls that allowed them would make bank.

The additional premiums paid for same sex partners would help the insurance industry ??? not hurt it. If the idea that someone would use their insurance to cover health care for their life partner were the basis for an unsound business model then insurance companies would not underwrite policies for traditional marriages. The legalization of same sex unions would increase the opportunities for additional revenue to the insurance industry as a whole.

The pension payout objection is preposterous. If an American pays into a pension plan and wants that money to go to a same sex partner then that should his or her legal right as an American. Who are you or anyone else to determine otherwise.
 
ALBOB said:
And then after that WOMEN WILL WANT TO VOTE!!! :eek:

Sorry Rich, I just couldn't resist the joke. :D

P.S. I think the adoption thing came BEFORE the marriage thing. re: Rosie O'Donnell.

YaKnow I just cant see two homosexual men adopting children, and raising them in such an envirement, as being anywhere near normal. And I certainly cannot equate the right to do so no-where near as moraly righteous as the right of woman to vote.

""""""""""""If they are such hardworking, educated, decent, involved members of the community, then why would they NOT ask for some kind of basic legal protections in their life relationships? Should their reward for being such good citizens be the continued exhumation of their bodies from graves against the deceased's wishes, because some minister across town is fearful having two partners buried together might cause society to burn in the fiery furnace?""""""""""""""""""

They can have any kind of relationship they want. They can put their partners in wills, can be buried as they want,"what are you talking about"? What has having a marriage certificate have to do with legal protection? "Riding in an ambulance"? Your kidding right? Where do you live? If someone doesnt want their partner to be left with nothing then make a will. Furthermore for every supposed one injustice there will probably be 100 scams. Prior to the AIDs epidemic homosexuals, most of all men, were extremely promiscuous. And I suspect they will be with marriage as well. A buddy needs a surgicle procedure? "Hey I'll marry you and my insurance will pay,then, we'll get a divorce". Pensions too. Bill will figure,"why should no-one get my pension money when I die"? "I know, I'll marry Bob, whom Im currently fucking, and leave it to him cause hes a good guy". Who do you think is going to pay the bills for all this?

"""""But then, if you want a constitutional amendment that effectively turns them into refugees from political and religious persecution """""

Yeah, right. Were just going to throw them into concentration camps right? I think the bottom line is you either believe in the sanctity of marriage, and that the "S" is for a union of man and woman, that centers on raiseing children in a family, or you dont. I suspect gay marriage will eventually be passed into law and doing so will further erode family values which "started" with the liberal revolution in the 60's. Divorce, out of wedlock children,murdering babies in the womb,single moms, the whole house of horrors. Family values in America are in a crisis today and I sure dont see it getting any better.

Two homosexual men adopting children? What kind of household would that be for a kid to grow up in? Which one would the kid call "mom" and which one "dad"? Well if theres a legal marriage then theres no legal obstruction to adopting. Are you really for this?...take care..........................................Rich
 
Well, for one thing Rich, you know so little about this subject that it's almost comical. First, state laws about marriage aren't about the sanctity of anything - drop by the justice of the peace and read a sample "wedding" ceremony. State statutes are about benefits, inheritance laws, funeral arrangements,etc. Wills can and have been successfully challenged, especially in states were "conservative" judges adhere to some strange religious belief that a same-sex relationship is a mental and behavioral disorder.

As for their promiscuity, one might look at the heterosexual male tradition for spiritual guidance and the lack of cultural emphasis on the virginity of the American male before his own marriage as an indication of social behavior. If you look at gay men as an example of promiscuity, then it would hold true that lesbians would more likely be successful at marriage than heterosexuals, so marriage should only be allowed for them.

It's strange to read that argument about two men raising a child, as if this is some kind of foreign concept. If you look at the cultural and historical tradition in this country, there has never been any overt concern about children requiring they have both a mother and father. In fact, the courts never pull children out of a heterosexual home in which one party divorces and has limited or no custody rights, or out of a home in which one or both parents die while the children are young. The preference for placement for a child has always been with the remaining family members (ironically, whether gay or straight). For centuries, single grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins...have raised children successfully in these situations, usually with the full support and acceptance of the legal system. To suddenly declare that two men or two women can't possibly raise a child is preposterous - it's been done for centuries without raising an eyebrow.

Now, let's look at the legal "arrangements" these people can make. Sure, they can enter into any kind of "contract" they want, as long as they can afford the expenses and don't live in....say...the state of Virginia, which outlawed such contracts this year.
Then there is the case of the gay couple in Denver, who went together to the gym one night. . .and one had a heart attack. The ambulance was called, but the other partner was told he couldn't ride to the hospital in it because he didn't have his "power of attorney" papers with him. So while he rushed home to get them so he could be allowed visitation and consultation for any emergency operations, the partner died in the rescue squad on the way to the hospital.

If you look at many probate court records, you'll see many estate arrangements successfully challenged by extended "legally recognized" family members, who have an easier chance to claim that a same-sex relationship didn't exist and can contest both the will and inheritance requests. As for funeral arrangements, check out state "next-of-kin" laws - it's common for third cousins to be able to walk into a funeral parlor and not only force a change in funeral arrangements but bar the same-sex partner from the funeral service. One recent case in Missouri involved a court overruling the wishes of a deceased man who carefully instructed his partner while he was dying about where he wanted to be buried. The family, who apparently wasn't around at the time, sued to have the body exhumed. It was moved to an undisclosed location where the surviving partner cannot even visit and put flowers on the grave.

Most state laws allow the government to acquire property if there is no will in place and no surviving extended family members. So, is a same-sex couple get together and one dies suddenly a month later, there are dozens of cases in which the State has taken not only the property of the deceased but the unidentified property of the surviving partner. Non-recognition means just that - the relationship didn't exist.

I did the first national study on newspaper obituaries for these people several years ago, looking at the way their lives were identified in the "liberal" media - at the time, the exclusion of any existence of their relationships was common. Of course, the excuse at that time was that there were people in the community who would feel it was confirmation of a decline in "moral" values if we told the truth about a relationship in an individuals obituary (even if the dying person paid for it himself and requested it).
Naturally, lying and covering up the dignity of an individual life story isn't a "moral" issue.

Conservatives, who claim to be against government intrusion into personal property rights, strangely support government regulation and intrusion into these couple's property rights. Surviving partners have to pay inheritance taxes when they do get to keep the home, have no access to pensions or social security paid by the wages within the relationship and lose their property more frequently because of those extra responsibilities. Nothing moral about that policy. . .

Your assumption that gay couples will automatically scam the system in the same way heterosexuals have done (including many divorced "christian" and Republican leaders) is a strange excuse for denying them basic human rights. Blaming individual behavior on "liberals" is pretty lame, since studies have shown that evangelical christians have a slightly higher divorce rate than the general population - go figure. Individual responsibility doesn't have a damned thing to do with sexual orientation - it has to do with character. A constitutional amendment banning all divorce would not only be more appropriate, but something that would force heterosexuals to take responsibility for their own vows and choices. Obviously, it's easier to pick on the lesbian couple who has been together for 50 years without any kind of legal support system.

You believe it isn't possible for these people to be thrown into concentration camps? Think again - it isn't a far-fetched idea at all. In Germany, before Hitler came to power, same-sex relationships were not only visible but increasingly accepted. But when the rightwing dictatorship came to power, they were not only completely outlawed but they were rounded up and sent to work camps. During the war, some suffered castration and hormonal experiments to "change their behavior" - some were killed.
If you look at the manifestos of many American religious and rightwing political groups, (including those who have quite a bit of influence in the Administration) they believe the existence of gays in our society is a threat to good social order. Both rightwing evangelicals and Republican groups favor criminalization of same-sex behavior and prison sentences. Your own Party's platform clearly calls for opposition for any legal protection in employment, immigration, or simple domestic partnership registry for PRIVATE insurance period.

It is not only feasible that a federal constitutional amendment would create refugees from political and religious persecution, but highly likely that those who would have their marriages dissolved by force could (and SHOULD) seek political asylum. In every decision regarding relationships that this nation's Supreme Court has made (in terms of marriage), the right to intimate association has been considered an inalienable human right. The Court has only, in the past, enforced sexual activity laws. Even though the discriminatory sodomy laws were tossed out last year, Republicans are determined that the decision be reversed, and the states allowed to enter the homes of same-sex couples to arrest them in bed. A constitutional amendment that would refuse recognition for their existence, followed by...say, a step-up in enforcement of state anti-cohabitation laws would give these people every legal bit of evidence of our nation's intent to persecute them. If I was legally married and the government broke up my relationship, why the hell wouldn't I apply for refugee status to save my family?
Since you (and the President) think they can't raise children, don't you plan to pull them out of these couple's homes? Force them all to live scattered elsewhere? Or do you think these people have any reason to believe that, in your patriotic and moral wisdom, you'd fight for their right to continue living together? Think again, Rich - and think about how you'd react if the government came to your door and ordered your marriage ended because someone else didn't think you made the proper choice.
 
I say we let them get married. I honestly dont see the big deal. Can anyone explain to me what the big problem is, other than religious assholes being fuck faces?
 
Well, the majority of the population in the US is christian. The bible condems homosexuality. So, your so called "religious assholes" out number you.

Put it to a vote, and see where things fall, after all, that would be the democratic way. Some states already have, and people were against it by 70%. I don't think it's going to be allowed in the majority of states, if any. Unless of course the Governor allows it without a vote. Most won't because they'll never see another term.
 
Stickboy said:
Well, the majority of the population in the US is christian.

unfortunately I might add.
 
Stickboy said:
Well, the majority of the population in the US is christian. The bible condems homosexuality. So, your so called "religious assholes" out number you.

Put it to a vote, and see where things fall, after all, that would be the democratic way. Some states already have, and people were against it by 70%. I don't think it's going to be allowed in the majority of states, if any. Unless of course the Governor allows it without a vote. Most won't because they'll never see another term.

Not every christian denomination in the United States condemns those relationships. And we've been down the road about the bible condemning all sorts of things that sinners with benefits don't expect to lose their constitutional rights over. If we are going to start putting religious interpretations up to a popular vote as law in this nation, why don't we start with the first verse of the bible and start passing amendments that cause you some damage? There are reasons why, for example, we didn't put interracial marriage up for a popular vote. . .because the overwhelming majority of Americans didn't want these people to be legally married. What you are saying in making this statement is that the interests of people down the street in someone's relationship is more important than the relationship itself - in effect meaning that you believe the government should interfere in an individual's life in order to protect your particular church's beliefs.

This is exactly why this nation has a judicial system - to protect individual constitutional rights from the tyranny of those who would readily abrogate them to favor themselves. We should, using that philosophy, consider allowing outside religious groups to interrupt heterosexual weddings, especially if one party has engaged in premarital sex that would go against the viewpoints of another religious group. Then we should put their eligibility up for a vote - after all, recognizing their relationship carries a heavy financial and social burden for the rest of society, and since heterosexual marriages have such a high divorce rate (along with regular sinful behavior, including breaking commandments) it can't be in the public interest to encourage such irresponsible behavior. Who is the greatest danger in society, the same-sex couple that has been together 20 years, or the convicted heterosexual pedophile who is allowed to marry? The heterosexual rapist or registered sex offender...the spousal abuser? No call to put their inalienable rights up for a vote?

No democratic nation advocates a popular vote to abrogate rights for any group of members when a constitution is supposed to already guarantee those rights. What your Party advocates is amending that document to prevent a whole array of citizen rights, and, as in the case of places like Virginia, use it to pass more restrictive laws about those Americans. When the argument is nothing more than "the Bible condemns it" then Americans should understand that the death penalty should be instituted for those who commit adultery because true christians know the Bible condemns that practice.

I don't think gay Americans are stupid - they know the hypocrisy behind the "vote" idea. . . and they know that even though 80% of americans believe they should have, say, equal employment rights, the religious right has blocked federal legislation giving them that for years. They also notice that no one is asking the public to vote on that issue, only the sanctity of their relationships.

So, Stick...what would you say to those legal marriages that you'd vote to destroy? Tell them to come to church with you and they'll turn into heterosexuals? They'll more likely seek political asylum for both their faith and families before being forced to do that.

The other issue that a popular vote assaults is the right to privacy, not only in the inalienable right to intimate association, but in the idea of due process and equal protection under the law. They are well aware that Republicans like Sen. Santorum believe that the right to privacy does not extend to gay Americans, and that the President himself has a history of defending Texas' own sodomy law which was arbitarily enforced by arrests in the private bedrooms of gay citizens. Shouldn't we be voting on which Americans have freedom of association, which ones get freedom of speech, which ones have freedom to inherit property?

There are few things more likely to destroy this democracy than the tyranny exercised by the whittling away of the constitutional rights of select groups of citizens by means of the ballot box. Maybe you'll realize that when suddenly your right to bear firearms comes up for a "popular" vote down the road, or when a state becomes majority Mexican and African-American, and they demand to vote on limiting white rights... and the precedent will have been set in constitutional stone. If you value your own rights, you never vote away the rights of someone else, whether your church wants to or not.
 
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Personally I disagree with gay marriages, I just read an article in Psychology Today about 2 married gay men with an adopted daughter, the article was about "soul mates", I simply think it's wrong, especially for their daughter, who will be an outcast or follow suit with the same sex.........doesn't matter really, eventually there will be no more marriages, this world will become communal, men and women will have several partners all raising many children, like in the 60's, I believe it will revert back to this within the next 10 or 15 years, and at that point what the President thinks or anyone else won't really matter..........JMO
 
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There is absolutely no scientific evidence that suggest a child raised by gay parents automatically becomes gay. . .and the logic behind that is so flawed that it doesn't warrant argument. The overwhelming majority of gay Americans come from stable heterosexual households, families that neither the Republican party values or believes in defending. If we honestly knew that they became "gay" through upbringing, wouldn't it make sense to punish the heterosexual parents for victimizing the children in such a manner? Shouldn't we pull the rest of the children from the household to make sure they don't produce any more of "them"?

What studies have shown so far, is that the children of same-sex parentstend to be more tolerant of diversity in our culture in all areas. Your reasoning would follow that a child who has lost both parents should be taken from a single grandparent's home or a household where aunts live together because it is unnatural. It would also logically follow that a child raised in an orphanage administered by celibate nuns would be sexually dysfunctional. That isn't "normal" either, but has been part of raising children for centuries. What isn't normal to ME is that a father, for example, who can sexually abuse his child, can be removed from the home but the state cannot force him to be divorced. Or that, in a normal household, physical abuse can be heaped upon millions of children for 20 years and no one knows about it. Or that in the Catholic Church, priests can get away with sexual abuse of children and shuffled around for 50 years?

In many cases, those same-sex couples have adopted children from third world countries or who are victims of abuse in heterosexual households...the unwanted troubled children that heterosexual adoptive parents don't usually want.
 
I'm not a scientist, nor was I making a scientific statement, it was a personal thought, as well as witnessing a friend of mine's son becoming more feminine than he needs to be, although I do believe genetics play a huge role in that and I didn't say that their daughter would automatically become gay, but I do think the odds are more to that way, it mentioned nothing about having a woman role model in her life, which I believe is imperative for any child, same if it were two women having a son, a male role model would be beneficial to his development in all aspects, physically, mentally, spiritual.

I made one statement concerning one situation, it is an observation, whether gay or not, any child brought up in a culturally diverse lifestyle will develop the sensitivities necessary to be on a better plane of existence in this world. As far as children being adopted by any loving being is a blessing in my estimation, regardless of being homosexual or heterosexual..

My statement was in a biblical sense, people are people, their choice is their own, it doesn't mean I wouldn't support my friend in her relationship, it's simply who she is and what she believes but it would not be my lifestyle choice. Hope that clarifies more that I wasn't putting gay people down, I was merely stating that I don't spiritual believe in that, on the whole I would not vote for it's popularity but for my friend, I will always be her friend and support her with her choice. I know it's contradictory but most things are and it's how I feel.

My logic isn't flawed, it's what I think as a human being, it's my personal beliefs, and NO they do not warrant an argument, no one's opinions warrant an argument, it's just an opinion, it won't change the way of the world.


BTW...........good to see you KBM :wave2:
 
I had to ask myself If I really wanted to be in this conversation bad enough to have ro read this KBM guys three additional short stories. I decided I didnt. I also dont need a "study" to tell me whats normal for a child or not. In fact I dont need "experts" for anything,"another liberal trait" "lets find a liberal expert to back up what were saying".

I can make up my own mind. Homosexuals raising kids is fucked, and I for one am tired of them shoving their lifestyle down the throats of the rest of us,"no pun intended"......................take care...................Rich
 
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kbm8795 said:
If we are going to start putting religious interpretations up to a popular vote as law in this nation, why don't we start with the first verse of the bible and start passing amendments that cause you some damage?

Um, do you even KNOW what he first verse of the bible is, or says?

There are reasons why, for example, we didn't put interracial marriage up for a popular vote. . .because the overwhelming majority of Americans didn't want these people to be legally married. What you are saying in making this statement is that the interests of people down the street in someone's relationship is more important than the relationship itself - in effect meaning that you believe the government should interfere in an individual's life in order to protect your particular church's beliefs.

No, I'm saying put it to vote and see what the people say. It doesn't really matter what my view on it is, if it passes, then so be it - at that point it really doesn't matter what I think, does it? Actually, I think the government should be extremely small and if it doesn't agree wtih my Church then I have a choice don't I? I could move somewhere that is more in line with what I believe, or I can just deal with it.

This is exactly why this nation has a judicial system - to protect individual constitutional rights from the tyranny of those who would readily abrogate them to favor themselves.

No, what we have is a judicial system that is legistlating from the bench, which is definately NOT what the founding fathers wanted. Judges are supposed to interpet laws passed, not make them. This isn't the case in the United States, anymore.

We should, using that philosophy, consider allowing outside religious groups to interrupt heterosexual weddings, especially if one party has engaged in premarital sex that would go against the viewpoints of another religious group.

What philosphy? I made a statement based on what I believe. Don't put words into my mouth.

God gave man free will. Each can choose their own path. Nothing says I have to agree with it, or have to enable it - esp if I have a chance to remove, or prevent it.

Then we should put their eligibility up for a vote - after all, recognizing their relationship carries a heavy financial and social burden for the rest of society, and since heterosexual marriages have such a high divorce rate (along with regular sinful behavior, including breaking commandments) it can't be in the public interest to encourage such irresponsible behavior. Who is the greatest danger in society, the same-sex couple that has been together 20 years, or the convicted heterosexual pedophile who is allowed to marry? The heterosexual rapist or registered sex offender...the spousal abuser? No call to put their inalienable rights up for a vote?

Have you READ the Bill of Rights? Sounds like you are giving people more rights than they actually have.

See, you are going off on tangents (pedophiles, premaritial sex, etc) to argue THIS topic. It doesn't apply to the topic at hand.

No democratic nation advocates a popular vote to abrogate rights for any group of members when a constitution is supposed to already guarantee those rights.

What rights are being abrogated? There is no right to be a homosexual.

What your Party advocates is amending that document to prevent a whole array of citizen rights, and, as in the case of places like Virginia, use it to pass more restrictive laws about those Americans. When the argument is nothing more than "the Bible condemns it" then Americans should understand that the death penalty should be instituted for those who commit adultery because true christians know the Bible condemns that practice.

My party? I have no party. I'm an independent.

I don't think gay Americans are stupid - they know the hypocrisy behind the "vote" idea. . . and they know that even though 80% of americans believe they should have, say, equal employment rights, the religious right has blocked federal legislation giving them that for years. They also notice that no one is asking the public to vote on that issue, only the sanctity of their relationships.

I never said homosexuals were stupid. If we are going to oppose the majority of opinion on a topic in this country, then it's no longer a democracy, is it?

So, Stick...what would you say to those legal marriages that you'd vote to destroy? Tell them to come to church with you and they'll turn into heterosexuals? They'll more likely seek political asylum for both their faith and families before being forced to do that.

First, too bad, you are making the wrong choice. Sorry it didn't work out for you.

I believe that homosexuality is a choice.

If they seek asylum, that is their choice. Homosexuality is not a "faith", it's a lifestyle.

The other issue that a popular vote assaults is the right to privacy, not only in the inalienable right to intimate association, but in the idea of due process and equal protection under the law. They are well aware that Republicans like Sen. Santorum believe that the right to privacy does not extend to gay Americans, and that the President himself has a history of defending Texas' own sodomy law which was arbitarily enforced by arrests in the private bedrooms of gay citizens. Shouldn't we be voting on which Americans have freedom of association, which ones get freedom of speech, which ones have freedom to inherit property?

I, again, urge you to read what your rights actually "are".

There are few things more likely to destroy this democracy than the tyranny exercised by the whittling away of the constitutional rights of select groups of citizens by means of the ballot box.

Um, true democracys go by majority rule. We are not one (true democracy). Again, exactly what rights are being violated by banning gay marriage?

Maybe you'll realize that when suddenly your right to bear firearms comes up for a "popular" vote down the road, or when a state becomes majority Mexican and African-American, and they demand to vote on limiting white rights... and the precedent will have been set in constitutional stone.

Would never happen. BTW, you are assuming I am white.

If you value your own rights, you never vote away the rights of someone else, whether your church wants to or not.

What rights? There is NO right to be a homosexual. READ THE BILL OF RIGHTS. I'm not voting away someone's rights.
 
Rich46yo said:
.....I for one am tired of them shoving their lifestyle down the throats of the rest of us,"no pun intended"......................take care...................Rich

Just like people may be tired of YOU shoving your lifestyle down their throats
 
Stickboy said:
...What rights? There is NO right to be a homosexual. READ THE BILL OF RIGHTS. I'm not voting away someone's rights.

There also isn't a right to be heterosexual....

Placing this in the Constitution will begin a sliding scale
to restrict individual rights...

Constitution Amendments normally expand individual rights.

Once upon a time, there was also a LAW forbidding INTER-RACIAL marriage,
if it was still current, Clarence Thomas and others like him would forever be heart broken as they would not have been able to marry their sweetheart.

I am not for gay marriage BUT this does not belong in the
Constitution, PERIOD!
 
Rich46yo said:
I had to ask myself If I really wanted to be in this conversation bad enough to have ro read this KBM guys three additional short stories. I decided I didnt. I also dont need a "study" to tell me whats normal for a child or not. In fact I dont need "experts" for anything,"another liberal trait" "lets find a liberal expert to back up what were saying".

I can make up my own mind. Homosexuals raising kids is fucked, and I for one am tired of them shoving their lifestyle down the throats of the rest of us,"no pun intended"......................take care...................Rich


GOOD, Rich. . .we know you have a short attention span for anything requiring more than memorized official Party dogma. By the way, you've never had any problem shoving your lifestyle down anyone's throat, have you? You still haven't figured out that being called a liberal from you kinda ends up being a compliment.
 
DFINEST said:
There also isn't a right to be heterosexual....

Placing this in the Constitution will begin a sliding scale
to restrict individual rights...

Constitution Amendments normally expand individual rights.

Once upon a time, there was also a LAW forbidding INTER-RACIAL marriage,
if it was still current, Clarence Thomas and others like him would forever be heart broken as they would not have been able to marry their sweetheart.

I am not for gay marriage BUT this does not belong in the
Constitution, PERIOD!

Um, read up. What did I say? I said I thought States should vote for themselves to allow for it, and posted an example of where it didn't happen.

Sorry if that wasn't clear.

Never did I say that it should be an Constitutional Amendment, or not one.
 
kbm8795 said:
GOOD, Rich. . .we know you have a short attention span for anything requiring more than memorized official Party dogma. By the way, you've never had any problem shoving your lifestyle down anyone's throat, have you? You still haven't figured out that being called a liberal from you kinda ends up being a compliment.

Heh, you like to throw that "party" affiliation line about, don't you? Rich can speak for himself, so I'm not going to defend him, but.....

Talk about shoving a lifestyle down someones throat....

Isn't that EXACTLY what the gay movement is doing?
 
Stickboy said:
Heh, you like to throw that "party" affiliation line about, don't you? Rich can speak for himself, so I'm not going to defend him, but.....

Talk about shoving a lifestyle down someones throat....

Isn't that EXACTLY what the gay movement is doing?


Uh...well gosh, Stickboy...you mean they are forcing you to date other guys?
They are like going door-to-door, like..um..say, the Jehovah's Witnesses and the Mormons and about six other evangelical groups in my town, and recruiting people to their "lifestyle"? Or is it...maybe just thinking that they have the right to openly date and fall in love just like every other person..wow, sounds like some real heavy lifestyle imposition to me. Not a thing like...oh, say some Pat Robertson, who that minister I saw on the news today who told his congregation that it was a "crime" if they didn't vote this year.

And yep - I throw any Party affiliation around when it's supporters toe every aspect of the Party line without thinking for themselves.
 
kbm8795 said:
Uh...well gosh, Stickboy...you mean they are forcing you to date other guys?
They are like going door-to-door, like..um..say, the Jehovah's Witnesses and the Mormons and about six other evangelical groups in my town, and recruiting people to their "lifestyle"? Or is it...maybe just thinking that they have the right to openly date and fall in love just like every other person..wow, sounds like some real heavy lifestyle imposition to me. Not a thing like...oh, say some Pat Robertson, who that minister I saw on the news today who told his congregation that it was a "crime" if they didn't vote this year.

LOL, is that the best you got? :laugh:

I'm going to have to assume you are gay, since you defend it so much. I simply don't believe in your lifestyle, and won't sit by and have it intrude on my life.

And yep - I throw any Party affiliation around when it's supporters toe every aspect of the Party line without thinking for themselves.

Oh, maybe I should change my status. I'm an independent.
 
This entire debate is absurd.

Government supported marriage should simply be done away with. It should be replaced with universal "domestic partnerships." That way any couple can recieve the legal benefits of current government-backed marriage without dealing with the religion issue. After that, any couple who wishes can go ahead and be "married" in a church. Simply separate church and state (something that should have been done a long time ago).
 
Stickboy said:
Um, do you even KNOW what he first verse of the bible is, or says?

I'm gonna pretend you didn't even think of typing that. But we could move right to your church's probable contradictory teachings in Leviticus, if you like. . .and I'm sure you have a good handle on your denomination's history on instances where interpretations were changed.



No, I'm saying put it to vote and see what the people say. It doesn't really matter what my view on it is, if it passes, then so be it - at that point it really doesn't matter what I think, does it? Actually, I think the government should be extremely small and if it doesn't agree wtih my Church then I have a choice don't I? I could move somewhere that is more in line with what I believe, or I can just deal with it.

Interesting - so if we put each person's rights to recognized relationships up for a vote, it wouldn't look so bad if they have to seek political asylum or if we "voted" to break up someone's marriage. We should just keep changing the Constitution until only those people we approve of have citizenship. Sorry to say, but I'd be voting againt a lot of heterosexual marriages - too often one party just doesn't have the character to go the distance.



No, what we have is a judicial system that is legistlating from the bench, which is definately NOT what the founding fathers wanted. Judges are supposed to interpet laws passed, not make them. This isn't the case in the United States, anymore.

Nonsense - what we have is a judicial body whose job it is to interpret the constitutionality of laws. It was created partially to insure that the tyranny of the majority could not erase the inalienable and citizenship rights of others, not to function as a rubber stamp of frequently changing public opinion. It has flaws, but one of them is not legislating from the bench. Courts do not pass legislation - they can order the issue be addressed by the legislature based on the Constitution's protections and have done so on a variety of issues over our history. The founding fathers wanted the courts to be able to prevent legislatures from removing rights of citizens, among those the Bill of Rights. In any number of cases, those same courts prevented legislatures from implementing many passed laws that would have restricted freedom of speech, the press, and yes, religion. You act as if any time an unpopular group of Americans seek redress, the courts are "legislating from the bench" if those people win. We would have ceased any pretense to being a democracy nearly two centuries ago if that had been the case.



What philosphy? I made a statement based on what I believe. Don't put words into my mouth.

I wasn't quoting you.

God gave man free will. Each can choose their own path. Nothing says I have to agree with it, or have to enable it - esp if I have a chance to remove, or prevent it.


This is the same free will which your minister uses when selecting alterations to biblical interpretation, or the church uses when it abandons one teaching even when the Bible hasn't been rewritten. If each can choose their own path, that freedom has to be protected by some part of the government - you advocate seriously preventing the judicial branch from participation other than as a rubber stamp.


Have you READ the Bill of Rights? Sounds like you are giving people more rights than they actually have.

I'm sure the right wing will take care of any "extra" rights that any American might believe they have been given.

Now that's an interesting concept - MORE rights than they actually have. Like due process, or the equal protection clauses? The right to a fair trial, perhaps, which may not occur when their relationships aren't recognized? The freedom to practice their own religious beliefs? You might read the baby bill of rights that are in each state's constitution - they are even more specific. In fact it was a commonwealth's constitutional bill of rights that forced the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court to make the ruling legalizing those marriages. That ruling was based on equal protection guarantees, and the state had hundreds of benefit and responsibility laws that gay couples could not access. More importantly, the State, which fought this in court, had few material or practical reasons why allowing those unions would harm the State.


See, you are going off on tangents (pedophiles, premaritial sex, etc) to argue THIS topic. It doesn't apply to the topic at hand.

Doesn't apply at all? Well, let's see....by Supreme Court decisions over the last several decades, it's been rather well established that the only pretext a State has to prevent the "inalienable" right to marry is when it can show that a significant harm can be caused the public. Pedophiles, sex offenders, rapists obviously have shown a criminal history of poor conduct that harms society, even within their relationship choices. But the State can't force them to divorce or prevent them from marriage. . .because the right to intimate association is considered so inalienable that it is above the intervention of the State EXCEPT when significant harm can be done to the orderly function of the culture. This means damages like birth defects, age requirements, etc. Yes, in some states first cousins can marry. You are contending that gay Americans have to live under a different standard for determination.



What rights are being abrogated? There is no right to be a homosexual.

I hate to hit you on semantics, but, our Constitution doesn't differentiate between sexual orientations when it lays down the framework for the requirements to be considered an American citizen. There were laws in some states against homosexual acts, along with some heterosexual acts. They were struck down by the Supreme Court because of arbitrary enforcement and invasion of one class of citizen's privacy, while the other class was left alone. Your President fought desperately to keep that treatment in place, first as governor, then as President.



My party? I have no party. I'm an independent.

You've indicated that you support the Republican Party's platform on every one of their planks on this issue, which includes opposition to any sort of recognition or legal protection of any kind.



I never said homosexuals were stupid. If we are going to oppose the majority of opinion on a topic in this country, then it's no longer a democracy, is it?

Again, I wasn't quoting you - I was pointing out that these people have been observing from a unique position for a long time. What they see is that no one is paying attention to the grievances over benefits and basic human dignity because they are too busy being hysterical over the moral "sanctity" of marriage. It isn't the concept of marriage at stake for them - it's the hundreds of benefits that, without access, create some brutal, very unjust conditions at important times of a person's life. Frankly, my personal opinion is that many of these statutes should be changed as individual rights - no one should be required to pay a large sum of money to try to construct some form of right to control assets, health care or funeral planning. Many of the issues are problems heterosexuals are up against - just go to a funeral and watch the vultures circle - it can be ugly at the worst time.

The majority of opinion ONLY is against the concept of same-sex marriage. . .and that opinion is also against amending the Constitution as the President wants. The majority favors some form of protection, but in many cases, the constitutional amendments being introduced in some states are worded just vaguely enough to force people to prevent even power of attorney contracts in order to prevent marriage. Thank those "ACLU of the Right" legal groups for that. . .



First, too bad, you are making the wrong choice. Sorry it didn't work out for you.

I believe that homosexuality is a choice.

Sure, just like you woke up at...the age of 12 or so and said "Shoot - today I'm choosing that I'm gonna be a heterosexual." I'd like to see the damage lawsuits filed when that belief goes down with the "God intended the races be naturally seperated on different continents so they would never mix."

Uh..religious beliefs are a choice; we don't know to what degree any kind of choice might be involved with a gay identity. Since you aren't one of them, you hardly have any way of knowing whether it is a choice or not - and neither would a church. What we do know is that both churches and government haven't spent much money or time trying to find out, either - and, according to one gay friend, that indicates to gays they don't really want to know or conduct outreach to that community.

If they seek asylum, that is their choice. Homosexuality is not a "faith", it's a lifestyle.

Again, you have no way of knowing anything about that - you are neither gay nor is your church likely knowledgeable about the subject. It is dependent upon selective interpretation of about a dozen scriptural verses - verses with interpretation that is widely contested. As for your personal contention, there are very few "ex" gay people who have made that claim - the narratives I've read seem to have extenuating circumstances that involved some type of abuse. Dangerously inconclusive. However, there is nothing innate about religious faith - no one is born a particular denomination or grasping a denominational faith. We don't know completely why or how gays become that way - but I doubt many of them have ever believed it was a simple "choice." The use of "lifestyle" indicates your belief that it is a choice - and that either stems from your own personal experience at choosing sexual orientation or from some special knowledge.

Seeking political asylum is not something foreign governments view as a "choice", but rather judge on the basis of a necessity because significant physical and/or social/cultural harm can come to those applying if they remain in their countries. Americans, who pride themselves as being among the "free" peoples of the earth, aren't known for large numbers seeking asylum to escape political and religious persecution. Passing a federal constitutional amendment that forceably dissolves the Massachusetts marriages along with continued claims by "religious" groups that they are sinners by "choice" will create exactly that kind of climate. Remove their right to seek fair and just redress for grievances, just like any other American, and we've provided exactly those conditions. They don't leave because they want to - they leave because they cannot protect their families from people persecuting them. You know, kinda like the Pilgrims wanting to escape religious persecution...and..religious beliefs are choices of conscience.



I, again, urge you to read what your rights actually "are".

You might look at the 14th Amendment, which enumerates citizenship rights:

"No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States, nor shall any State deprive ANY person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law, nor deny to ANY person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."





Um, true democracys go by majority rule. We are not one (true democracy). Again, exactly what rights are being violated by banning gay marriage?

True democracies do not always rule by the tyranny of the majority. One reason is because we have a nation that did not allow participation by all constitutionally recognized citizens for the vast majority of our history. True democracy would require full participation.

Try the Fourteenth Amendment again, then read the history of the three-part process in which constitutional law decisions were constructed in terms of recognizing relationships. Individual Americans were provided the right to make individual decisions about their personal associations. The right to marry is based on the right to privacy (which Sen. Santorum denies, and if he were right, this would negate every individually selected marriage in the country. It has historically been recognized (like since early in our history) that the freedom of personal choice in matters of marriage and family life is one of the liberties protected by the Due Process Clause of the 14th Amendment. Freedom of association "extends to certain kinds of highly personal relationships" that "act as critical buffers between the individual and the power of the State." Roberts v. United States Jaycees (1984). Marriage has also been protected because it promotes societal and family stability (inheritance rights, property, etc.). One aspect of the privacy right stems from the unconstitutionality of a city ordinance which restricted extended family members from living in the same unit. The Supreme Court in that case held that the right to privacy in family life extended to close families who lived together out of necessity, choice or duty. In 1942, for example, the Supreme Court regarded marriage as a basic civil right of man. The decisions confirming these rights to individual choice, privacy and protection of intimate adult unions from societal prejudice (Loving v. Virginia).



Would never happen. BTW, you are assuming I am white.

Uh...no...if I was doing that, I would have specifically pointed out New Mexico. I should have made that two sentences to distinguish the references of "you."



What rights? There is NO right to be a homosexual. READ THE BILL OF RIGHTS. I'm not voting away someone's rights.

You most certainly know you would be voting away someone's rights of due process and equal protection under the law. And you know that a federal constitutional amendment, just like the Marriage Protection Act, is designed to prevent those people from seeking redress for their material and practical grievances without addressing them as citizens. Read the fine print in the Constitution - there is no right to DENY them being homosexuals. No right that is not enumerated in the Constitution is to be presumed to be denied (Article IX).

Curiously, many states have interesting constitutional clauses - for example, some states may abridge the practice of a religion that can be shown to do significant harm to others - maybe the gay Americans left behind can effectively sue for being made human sacrifices for someone else's religious beliefs.
 
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