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maniclion said:Actually Marriage is covered in Genesis well before Jesus shows up. The Old Testament is influential to Jews, Christians and Muslims.
Rich46yo said:The financial costs of legal gay marriage would be enormous. Imagine hundreds of thousands of them rushing to get married for the convenience of getting one partner under an insurance plan, a pension payout, other benefits. Imagine the scams resulting from such actions. Next they will want to adopt kids.
Actually, the federal government would MAKE money if same-sex marriage was approved. As for convenience. . .where is the public outcry over Britney's overnight marriage, all the marriages for a green card, for economic convenience? Most states neither interfere nor regulate the choices of a lifelong spouse, nor do they force or require divorce even when a crime is committed between spouses. Imagine the millions of scams we've already had to pay for because of the abuse of heterosexual marriages? Ah..or the husbands and wives who divorce or who are widowed, but end up shacking up with someone else instead of remarrying in order to fleece more alimony, child support, pensions and social security.
I'm way against this marriage thing.I believe it to be a perversion of a sacred institution and further evidence of a people with declining moral standards. But I also believe it should be up to individual states to vote on. America was always supposed to be a country where states had much of the power. The mushhead state I live in would probably vote for it. So be it, the people speak. Even the mushheads.
The only thing that has been a perversion of the sacred institution is the inability of those who are married to honor their vows before God, the State, and each other. The decline in moral standards isn't in the existence of love between two people, which has existed over human history - it's in the behavior of those who never viewed their marriages as sacred to begin with.
I don't believe people should "vote" on this issue at all - it goes against every democratic tradition of human rights in this nation. Human relationships, when they have done no material damage to the State and are conducted in a committed, monogamous manner that encourages social stability, have always been protected as something sanctimonious ABOVE the authority of any government or public intervention. That's why, for example, a wife is not required to testify in court against a husband, even if 99% of the rest of the population believes her testimony could help the rest of the public. To suddenly determine that private relationships should be voted on by the public invites public intervention in every aspect of anyone's life, including legally sanctioned marriages. When the public codifies that privilege into a Constitution, you open the door for the Family Research Council to intervene with a brief before the Court if you ever filed for divorce, claiming that you are undermining the sanctity of marriage by reneging on your sacred vows.
I have nothing against gays and I have known an awful lot of them. If anything they are probably more hardworking,educated,decent, and involved in the community then the general population. But gay marriage? Now way!......take care.....................Rich
Pepper said:Marriage..one man, one woman...period. if it takes an ammendment to guarantee that, so be it.
If you don't ammend the consitituion the PC folks will attack every state house and many, many of them will cave. The next thing you know, I will have to pay for health insurance for a homosexual employee to cover his "wife." Ain't happening.
ALBOB said:Not going to bet my next paycheck on this subject, I'm DEFINITELY no theological expert...........BUT, even thought spiritual "bonding" is indeed covered in Genesis, the actual institution of marriage was invented by the Roman Catholics...............................I think.![]()
Legal disclaimer: I offer no proof of my above statement. I could be completely wrong and if it's proven so I will freely admit my mistake. I'm only voicing what I'm PRETTY SURE I've seen in the past. "In the past" being the operative phrase here. My old brain cells aren't what they used to be.![]()
Pepper said:So you think the Pres can just do it?
The process involves representatives from EVERY state and requires a super-majority. That IS the people deciding.
Luke9583 said:I somewhat agree, but feel the divorce rate does just as much, if not more, to demean the sanctity of marriage.
Rich46yo said:The financial costs of legal gay marriage would be enormous. Imagine hundreds of thousands of them rushing to get married for the convenience of getting one partner under an insurance plan, a pension payout, other benefits. Imagine the scams resulting from such actions. Next they will want to adopt kids.
Another monotonous erroneous idiotic Richism
Imagine hundreds of thousands of them rushing to get married

ALBOB said:And then after that WOMEN WILL WANT TO VOTE!!!![]()
Sorry Rich, I just couldn't resist the joke.![]()
P.S. I think the adoption thing came BEFORE the marriage thing. re: Rosie O'Donnell.
Stickboy said:Well, the majority of the population in the US is christian.
Robert DiMaggio said:unfortunately I might add.
Stickboy said:Well, the majority of the population in the US is christian. The bible condems homosexuality. So, your so called "religious assholes" out number you.
Put it to a vote, and see where things fall, after all, that would be the democratic way. Some states already have, and people were against it by 70%. I don't think it's going to be allowed in the majority of states, if any. Unless of course the Governor allows it without a vote. Most won't because they'll never see another term.

kbm8795 said:If we are going to start putting religious interpretations up to a popular vote as law in this nation, why don't we start with the first verse of the bible and start passing amendments that cause you some damage?
There are reasons why, for example, we didn't put interracial marriage up for a popular vote. . .because the overwhelming majority of Americans didn't want these people to be legally married. What you are saying in making this statement is that the interests of people down the street in someone's relationship is more important than the relationship itself - in effect meaning that you believe the government should interfere in an individual's life in order to protect your particular church's beliefs.
This is exactly why this nation has a judicial system - to protect individual constitutional rights from the tyranny of those who would readily abrogate them to favor themselves.
We should, using that philosophy, consider allowing outside religious groups to interrupt heterosexual weddings, especially if one party has engaged in premarital sex that would go against the viewpoints of another religious group.
Then we should put their eligibility up for a vote - after all, recognizing their relationship carries a heavy financial and social burden for the rest of society, and since heterosexual marriages have such a high divorce rate (along with regular sinful behavior, including breaking commandments) it can't be in the public interest to encourage such irresponsible behavior. Who is the greatest danger in society, the same-sex couple that has been together 20 years, or the convicted heterosexual pedophile who is allowed to marry? The heterosexual rapist or registered sex offender...the spousal abuser? No call to put their inalienable rights up for a vote?
No democratic nation advocates a popular vote to abrogate rights for any group of members when a constitution is supposed to already guarantee those rights.
What your Party advocates is amending that document to prevent a whole array of citizen rights, and, as in the case of places like Virginia, use it to pass more restrictive laws about those Americans. When the argument is nothing more than "the Bible condemns it" then Americans should understand that the death penalty should be instituted for those who commit adultery because true christians know the Bible condemns that practice.
I don't think gay Americans are stupid - they know the hypocrisy behind the "vote" idea. . . and they know that even though 80% of americans believe they should have, say, equal employment rights, the religious right has blocked federal legislation giving them that for years. They also notice that no one is asking the public to vote on that issue, only the sanctity of their relationships.
So, Stick...what would you say to those legal marriages that you'd vote to destroy? Tell them to come to church with you and they'll turn into heterosexuals? They'll more likely seek political asylum for both their faith and families before being forced to do that.
The other issue that a popular vote assaults is the right to privacy, not only in the inalienable right to intimate association, but in the idea of due process and equal protection under the law. They are well aware that Republicans like Sen. Santorum believe that the right to privacy does not extend to gay Americans, and that the President himself has a history of defending Texas' own sodomy law which was arbitarily enforced by arrests in the private bedrooms of gay citizens. Shouldn't we be voting on which Americans have freedom of association, which ones get freedom of speech, which ones have freedom to inherit property?
There are few things more likely to destroy this democracy than the tyranny exercised by the whittling away of the constitutional rights of select groups of citizens by means of the ballot box.
Maybe you'll realize that when suddenly your right to bear firearms comes up for a "popular" vote down the road, or when a state becomes majority Mexican and African-American, and they demand to vote on limiting white rights... and the precedent will have been set in constitutional stone.
If you value your own rights, you never vote away the rights of someone else, whether your church wants to or not.
Rich46yo said:.....I for one am tired of them shoving their lifestyle down the throats of the rest of us,"no pun intended"......................take care...................Rich
Stickboy said:...What rights? There is NO right to be a homosexual. READ THE BILL OF RIGHTS. I'm not voting away someone's rights.
Rich46yo said:I had to ask myself If I really wanted to be in this conversation bad enough to have ro read this KBM guys three additional short stories. I decided I didnt. I also dont need a "study" to tell me whats normal for a child or not. In fact I dont need "experts" for anything,"another liberal trait" "lets find a liberal expert to back up what were saying".
I can make up my own mind. Homosexuals raising kids is fucked, and I for one am tired of them shoving their lifestyle down the throats of the rest of us,"no pun intended"......................take care...................Rich
DFINEST said:There also isn't a right to be heterosexual....
Placing this in the Constitution will begin a sliding scale
to restrict individual rights...
Constitution Amendments normally expand individual rights.
Once upon a time, there was also a LAW forbidding INTER-RACIAL marriage,
if it was still current, Clarence Thomas and others like him would forever be heart broken as they would not have been able to marry their sweetheart.
I am not for gay marriage BUT this does not belong in the
Constitution, PERIOD!
kbm8795 said:GOOD, Rich. . .we know you have a short attention span for anything requiring more than memorized official Party dogma. By the way, you've never had any problem shoving your lifestyle down anyone's throat, have you? You still haven't figured out that being called a liberal from you kinda ends up being a compliment.
Stickboy said:Heh, you like to throw that "party" affiliation line about, don't you? Rich can speak for himself, so I'm not going to defend him, but.....
Talk about shoving a lifestyle down someones throat....
Isn't that EXACTLY what the gay movement is doing?
kbm8795 said:Uh...well gosh, Stickboy...you mean they are forcing you to date other guys?
They are like going door-to-door, like..um..say, the Jehovah's Witnesses and the Mormons and about six other evangelical groups in my town, and recruiting people to their "lifestyle"? Or is it...maybe just thinking that they have the right to openly date and fall in love just like every other person..wow, sounds like some real heavy lifestyle imposition to me. Not a thing like...oh, say some Pat Robertson, who that minister I saw on the news today who told his congregation that it was a "crime" if they didn't vote this year.
And yep - I throw any Party affiliation around when it's supporters toe every aspect of the Party line without thinking for themselves.
Stickboy said:Um, do you even KNOW what he first verse of the bible is, or says?
I'm gonna pretend you didn't even think of typing that. But we could move right to your church's probable contradictory teachings in Leviticus, if you like. . .and I'm sure you have a good handle on your denomination's history on instances where interpretations were changed.
No, I'm saying put it to vote and see what the people say. It doesn't really matter what my view on it is, if it passes, then so be it - at that point it really doesn't matter what I think, does it? Actually, I think the government should be extremely small and if it doesn't agree wtih my Church then I have a choice don't I? I could move somewhere that is more in line with what I believe, or I can just deal with it.
Interesting - so if we put each person's rights to recognized relationships up for a vote, it wouldn't look so bad if they have to seek political asylum or if we "voted" to break up someone's marriage. We should just keep changing the Constitution until only those people we approve of have citizenship. Sorry to say, but I'd be voting againt a lot of heterosexual marriages - too often one party just doesn't have the character to go the distance.
No, what we have is a judicial system that is legistlating from the bench, which is definately NOT what the founding fathers wanted. Judges are supposed to interpet laws passed, not make them. This isn't the case in the United States, anymore.
Nonsense - what we have is a judicial body whose job it is to interpret the constitutionality of laws. It was created partially to insure that the tyranny of the majority could not erase the inalienable and citizenship rights of others, not to function as a rubber stamp of frequently changing public opinion. It has flaws, but one of them is not legislating from the bench. Courts do not pass legislation - they can order the issue be addressed by the legislature based on the Constitution's protections and have done so on a variety of issues over our history. The founding fathers wanted the courts to be able to prevent legislatures from removing rights of citizens, among those the Bill of Rights. In any number of cases, those same courts prevented legislatures from implementing many passed laws that would have restricted freedom of speech, the press, and yes, religion. You act as if any time an unpopular group of Americans seek redress, the courts are "legislating from the bench" if those people win. We would have ceased any pretense to being a democracy nearly two centuries ago if that had been the case.
What philosphy? I made a statement based on what I believe. Don't put words into my mouth.
I wasn't quoting you.
God gave man free will. Each can choose their own path. Nothing says I have to agree with it, or have to enable it - esp if I have a chance to remove, or prevent it.
This is the same free will which your minister uses when selecting alterations to biblical interpretation, or the church uses when it abandons one teaching even when the Bible hasn't been rewritten. If each can choose their own path, that freedom has to be protected by some part of the government - you advocate seriously preventing the judicial branch from participation other than as a rubber stamp.
Have you READ the Bill of Rights? Sounds like you are giving people more rights than they actually have.
I'm sure the right wing will take care of any "extra" rights that any American might believe they have been given.
Now that's an interesting concept - MORE rights than they actually have. Like due process, or the equal protection clauses? The right to a fair trial, perhaps, which may not occur when their relationships aren't recognized? The freedom to practice their own religious beliefs? You might read the baby bill of rights that are in each state's constitution - they are even more specific. In fact it was a commonwealth's constitutional bill of rights that forced the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court to make the ruling legalizing those marriages. That ruling was based on equal protection guarantees, and the state had hundreds of benefit and responsibility laws that gay couples could not access. More importantly, the State, which fought this in court, had few material or practical reasons why allowing those unions would harm the State.
See, you are going off on tangents (pedophiles, premaritial sex, etc) to argue THIS topic. It doesn't apply to the topic at hand.
Doesn't apply at all? Well, let's see....by Supreme Court decisions over the last several decades, it's been rather well established that the only pretext a State has to prevent the "inalienable" right to marry is when it can show that a significant harm can be caused the public. Pedophiles, sex offenders, rapists obviously have shown a criminal history of poor conduct that harms society, even within their relationship choices. But the State can't force them to divorce or prevent them from marriage. . .because the right to intimate association is considered so inalienable that it is above the intervention of the State EXCEPT when significant harm can be done to the orderly function of the culture. This means damages like birth defects, age requirements, etc. Yes, in some states first cousins can marry. You are contending that gay Americans have to live under a different standard for determination.
What rights are being abrogated? There is no right to be a homosexual.
I hate to hit you on semantics, but, our Constitution doesn't differentiate between sexual orientations when it lays down the framework for the requirements to be considered an American citizen. There were laws in some states against homosexual acts, along with some heterosexual acts. They were struck down by the Supreme Court because of arbitrary enforcement and invasion of one class of citizen's privacy, while the other class was left alone. Your President fought desperately to keep that treatment in place, first as governor, then as President.
My party? I have no party. I'm an independent.
You've indicated that you support the Republican Party's platform on every one of their planks on this issue, which includes opposition to any sort of recognition or legal protection of any kind.
I never said homosexuals were stupid. If we are going to oppose the majority of opinion on a topic in this country, then it's no longer a democracy, is it?
Again, I wasn't quoting you - I was pointing out that these people have been observing from a unique position for a long time. What they see is that no one is paying attention to the grievances over benefits and basic human dignity because they are too busy being hysterical over the moral "sanctity" of marriage. It isn't the concept of marriage at stake for them - it's the hundreds of benefits that, without access, create some brutal, very unjust conditions at important times of a person's life. Frankly, my personal opinion is that many of these statutes should be changed as individual rights - no one should be required to pay a large sum of money to try to construct some form of right to control assets, health care or funeral planning. Many of the issues are problems heterosexuals are up against - just go to a funeral and watch the vultures circle - it can be ugly at the worst time.
The majority of opinion ONLY is against the concept of same-sex marriage. . .and that opinion is also against amending the Constitution as the President wants. The majority favors some form of protection, but in many cases, the constitutional amendments being introduced in some states are worded just vaguely enough to force people to prevent even power of attorney contracts in order to prevent marriage. Thank those "ACLU of the Right" legal groups for that. . .
First, too bad, you are making the wrong choice. Sorry it didn't work out for you.
I believe that homosexuality is a choice.
Sure, just like you woke up at...the age of 12 or so and said "Shoot - today I'm choosing that I'm gonna be a heterosexual." I'd like to see the damage lawsuits filed when that belief goes down with the "God intended the races be naturally seperated on different continents so they would never mix."
Uh..religious beliefs are a choice; we don't know to what degree any kind of choice might be involved with a gay identity. Since you aren't one of them, you hardly have any way of knowing whether it is a choice or not - and neither would a church. What we do know is that both churches and government haven't spent much money or time trying to find out, either - and, according to one gay friend, that indicates to gays they don't really want to know or conduct outreach to that community.
If they seek asylum, that is their choice. Homosexuality is not a "faith", it's a lifestyle.
Again, you have no way of knowing anything about that - you are neither gay nor is your church likely knowledgeable about the subject. It is dependent upon selective interpretation of about a dozen scriptural verses - verses with interpretation that is widely contested. As for your personal contention, there are very few "ex" gay people who have made that claim - the narratives I've read seem to have extenuating circumstances that involved some type of abuse. Dangerously inconclusive. However, there is nothing innate about religious faith - no one is born a particular denomination or grasping a denominational faith. We don't know completely why or how gays become that way - but I doubt many of them have ever believed it was a simple "choice." The use of "lifestyle" indicates your belief that it is a choice - and that either stems from your own personal experience at choosing sexual orientation or from some special knowledge.
Seeking political asylum is not something foreign governments view as a "choice", but rather judge on the basis of a necessity because significant physical and/or social/cultural harm can come to those applying if they remain in their countries. Americans, who pride themselves as being among the "free" peoples of the earth, aren't known for large numbers seeking asylum to escape political and religious persecution. Passing a federal constitutional amendment that forceably dissolves the Massachusetts marriages along with continued claims by "religious" groups that they are sinners by "choice" will create exactly that kind of climate. Remove their right to seek fair and just redress for grievances, just like any other American, and we've provided exactly those conditions. They don't leave because they want to - they leave because they cannot protect their families from people persecuting them. You know, kinda like the Pilgrims wanting to escape religious persecution...and..religious beliefs are choices of conscience.
I, again, urge you to read what your rights actually "are".
You might look at the 14th Amendment, which enumerates citizenship rights:
"No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States, nor shall any State deprive ANY person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law, nor deny to ANY person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."
Um, true democracys go by majority rule. We are not one (true democracy). Again, exactly what rights are being violated by banning gay marriage?
True democracies do not always rule by the tyranny of the majority. One reason is because we have a nation that did not allow participation by all constitutionally recognized citizens for the vast majority of our history. True democracy would require full participation.
Try the Fourteenth Amendment again, then read the history of the three-part process in which constitutional law decisions were constructed in terms of recognizing relationships. Individual Americans were provided the right to make individual decisions about their personal associations. The right to marry is based on the right to privacy (which Sen. Santorum denies, and if he were right, this would negate every individually selected marriage in the country. It has historically been recognized (like since early in our history) that the freedom of personal choice in matters of marriage and family life is one of the liberties protected by the Due Process Clause of the 14th Amendment. Freedom of association "extends to certain kinds of highly personal relationships" that "act as critical buffers between the individual and the power of the State." Roberts v. United States Jaycees (1984). Marriage has also been protected because it promotes societal and family stability (inheritance rights, property, etc.). One aspect of the privacy right stems from the unconstitutionality of a city ordinance which restricted extended family members from living in the same unit. The Supreme Court in that case held that the right to privacy in family life extended to close families who lived together out of necessity, choice or duty. In 1942, for example, the Supreme Court regarded marriage as a basic civil right of man. The decisions confirming these rights to individual choice, privacy and protection of intimate adult unions from societal prejudice (Loving v. Virginia).
Would never happen. BTW, you are assuming I am white.
Uh...no...if I was doing that, I would have specifically pointed out New Mexico. I should have made that two sentences to distinguish the references of "you."
What rights? There is NO right to be a homosexual. READ THE BILL OF RIGHTS. I'm not voting away someone's rights.